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Archived questions from: 17 November, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

What to do when the ex who messed you about wants you back? I never got over him!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - what do you do when you were with you're ex boyfriend for nearly 2 years, so in love.. but it all fell apart, because of his mistakes, he changed, started to treat me horribly, messed me about and so on.. nearly a year down the line after breaking ...

I need 'alone time'! How do I get this with others around all the time?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (?) - I never have time to 'be alone'.... and no I dont mean like sleeping time, like 'me time' to make me happy and explore. My dad or his girlfriend is always here so I can never get done what I am trying to do. How do I get some alone ti...

Will asking her out...ruin our good friendship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Hey Folks. I could really use some advice from like the best in the biz. so here it goes. Me and a girl (both 15 years old) are quite good friends like we hug like everyday usually but she hugs other people however i'm in love with her and...

How do I get over his past life with his ex gf??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5466 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I hope someone can give me some advice about how to deal with this problem I am having with some of my feelings towards my fiancee. My fiance and I have been together for almost three years (engaged for eight months) and I...

My husband's ex wife...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - My husband and his ex-wife are going together to a school lunch for their son. Should I worry about her, she is a very manipulative person and I trust her as far as I can throw her. He used to give her whatever she wanted, I use to tell him that she ...

My mum calls me fat, now I'm feeling depressed...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Most days i feel really down and i think i may be depressed, i cry a lot and the smallest things can make me cry. i feel like everyone around me dont love me, i think my family hate me, i think my boyfriend hates me, i think my friends hate me. me ...

I don't know what to do. There is no romance in my marriage and I am seeing my old girlfriend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Good day 49 years old man been married for 21 years. Have three children 15, 18 and 19. My wife and I have made love three times in the last ten years. She won't discuss the problem or seek help. Full stop. I have gotten very down about it at time...

How long will my boyfriend stay in jail for assaulting me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5173 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - am 17 years old and i was dateing this guy who is 19 years old. we currently brok on saturday. because the police arrested him for hitting me on the street i guess people saw him hit me so they called the cops so they arrested him becasue i am a ...

Is my girlfriend cheating on me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5484 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Been dating this girl for two months and while she appears to be awesome there are things that I wonder about. She was great. But....we live an hour away. She is a nympho. She has druggy friends. She smokes pot. Loves tattoos. I have no problems ...

Men: Is your wife's depression a bigger concern than getting laid?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Men: If your girlfriend or wife was suffering from severe depression, would you be more concerned with her state of mind, or getting laid? Furthermore: If the depression was supposedly because your words and actions towards her during the durat...

Am I still with him because I am afraid of being alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - So me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for about 3 years now. I love him very much, the deepest love i have ever felt for anyone. We have broken up 3 times and I have been the one to break up with him. The first time we dated 3 mont...

We are drowning in debt! My husband won't take that into account as we approach the holidays!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Before my husband and I got together, he had a wife who got him into debt. After she walked out on him and his kids, he got a girlfriend who completed the process. The hole that the ex-wife started was dug deeper by the girlfriend. My husband is ...

Should I meet this girl?? I think she could be trouble.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy off and on for 2 years. This year has been great. He told me about this girl he had been friends with. He had told her about me when he first started to see me. Anyway he is friends with her whole family. He does not ...

Does he really love me if he needs time to think?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I spilt up from my boyfriend of three and a half years almost 7 months ago. There has been a lot of hurt and pain caused, and a lot of things said and done and as a results we have found it really difficult to get back together. However, we still ...

I feel like I have lost everything and this new girl is getting everything I worked so hard for!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5485 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hi, this isn't really a question of sorts but I just really need some help getting over my ex. Basically we were together for four years, he's a year and a half older than me and we got together just before my 19th birthday. Our relationship was...

Should I continue to feel frustrated, or is there a simple solution to our sexual differences?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I'm in a relationship with the sweetest man I've ever met.He is thoughtful caring and loving,but the problem is he doesn't care to make love.He says were at different stages in life where I'm in my 30's and wanting intimate love and he is 40 and not ...

Is there an Islamic solution that would mean a married woman could divorce her husband and marry her true love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - I loved a girl but she was pressured by her parents to get married two years back, however she loved me so much that she did not let her husband come close to her which means they did not have any sexual relation, her husband is a nice guy but she ...

I love him but his behaviour is emotionally draining. Please help.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I have been accused, verbally abused, and physically attacked by my boyfriend of three years. I have never once been unfaithful in my thoughts or actions in the short time I've been here on this earth - it's just not in my character. ...

Feeling used by lazy future brother in law!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hey Aunts Heres my problem and hope you can help , Im living with my fiance and his brother , and the problem is the brother , he is 20 and just lays around the house , we all have full time jobs and i do 90% of the cooking and cleaning my fian...

My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him, but I'm not, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 8 months. We've been through our ups and downs like most couples but essentially we're very strong. But now I have a big problem. One of his so called friends told him that I was messing him about...

Thinking of getting back with my ex but he frequently doesn't answer my calls!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - my ex and i might get back...we have been talking a little over 2 months. We will probably be meeting within the next few weeks..the thing that bothers me is its been about 5 or 6 times when it will be my turn to call and i do and there is no answer ...

Is it possible for him to get those feelings back and for this relationship to work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hi, A few days ago, my boyfriend of 7 months told me that his feelings have changed over the last few weeks because i dont trust him, and it has eventually driven him away. He was about to break up with me, but we had a long conversation, an...

Do I believe that he has learnt his lesson? Or should I walk away?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for a year but a few days ago two girls came to me and told me they had been sleeping with him. i truely love him and i dont doubt how he feels for me but i just cant believe he has done this to me. we had been arguing ...

Its exhausting to try and be everything that he wants!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I have a question for all of you to try and answer. I have been dating the same boy for over a year now. Things started out great and still are. But when we are in bed, I don’t feel as close as we used to be. He goes in and out of phases with wha...

Why lead me on if nothing is to happen? Or does he want something to happen despite having a girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I started a new job a month ago. Working with a nice guy, but he's giving mixed signals to me (I think). He has a girlfriend and they've been together for 2 years but he flirts with me. He's sent messages/emails saying 'I love you', always...

He doesn't want to marry someone who already has a child, can I ever be sure if this relationship is serious?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (?) - hi i dont know if u can answer my question. im in love with this guy i really do love him so much, my problem is i have a child and he dont have any and he once told me that he dont want to marry a person who have a child, though it was hard to ...

My b/f and his friends make really sexist jokes, should I worry?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5486 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - My bf and his friends (who are in their mid 20's) make jokes really sexist jokes. They also find it funny and entertaining talking about women being bashed up and abused by their bf's as well as women being raped and sexually assaulted. How can they...

I am depressed, my mom is an alcoholic and I fear losing my b/f!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5460 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hey there, This is a pretty hard topic to talk about and I dont really know where to stsart, i guess first things first is my mom is an alcholic and i really dont know how to handle it, i turned to smoke, then quit that cuz my bf helped me stop, an...

After he's done things to hurt me, he still just blames me. How can I make this work?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (?) - Hi, I am 19 and I have been in the relationship I'm in right now for almost 2yrs. I have a very big problem with my partner. I have lied to him as well as cheating. I am not proud or happy about what I did, but there is nothing I can do to change ...

Did I do the right thing by rejecting this guy, or should I have said nothing?

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17 November 2009 (F) - is it wrong to like a guy who has repeated called u boring? u like him and he likes u back but u rejected him alot.. becuz your not sure of a relationship with him now.. u tld him when u guys turn 25 u wud be willin to try a relatiinship if your ...

One thing finally goes right for me, and now my dad is being unreasonable. Please help me understand this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Ok so i need some quick advice. Bad. I've had a rough time with relationships. Out of the 3 ive been in, ive been cheated on 3 times. Ive finally found an amazing girl, we've been talking since this past friday, so not so long. But we both thin...

I feel paralyzed...how can I move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I split up with my husband 4 years ago and have been living apart since then. I have no desire to with him anymore, yet I can't bring myself to file for divorce. Everytime I think of doing it, I just feel sick and horrible inside. Yet I know I do ...

I'm at a kind of crossroads after losing a dear friend and don't know what to do with my life.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - A dear friend of mine passed away only 2 months ago and i cant help but feel miserable. His other friends know me and have continuously asked me to hang with them and i accept but when the day comes they dont call and ditch me for no apparent ...

Are these the signs of obsessive behaviour?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months, i love him so much, he loves me too. but over the past few months hes turned weird with me, he dont like me going out with my friends he dont admit it but i know he hates it because as soon as im out he ...

My girlfriend's threesome is haunting me...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - My girlfriend recently let slip that she was involved in a threesome when she was 16. The threesome involved her older sister (age 23) and the sister's boyfriend. Some things can't be unheard or rewound and it is now driving me nuts. The words ...

What should I do after 6 years of dating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I have been dating a wonderful man, Bill, for 6 years. He is very caring, kind, romantic and good to me. The problem is that I see no change of status in sight – he has no intention of moving in anytime soon and doesn’t mention marriage. I guess ...

He said I just don't turn him on!!!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Ok first thanks for taking the time to read this. This guy and I started an exclusive relationship a little over a week ago. He has a hard time staying hard during intercourse, and I am very patient with him and I continue to rub him and kiss him to ...

Why do I always try to make him jealous???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5479 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I'm with an amazing boy who I have been in a relationship with for 9 months now, in the past boys have treated me badly, but then he came along and it showed me not all boys are the same, its like he saved me from it all. we love each other, I'm his ...

Where do I go from here? I'm 30, she's 19 and her mum hates me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm 30 and I've just started to go out with a lovely 19 year old, we both have spoken for three weeks online and before we met we both had our nerves, we finished off the first night with a kiss and since then our love for each other has ...

He watches porn all the time and it's doing my head in!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5490 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - My fella watches porn an I've explained to him how it makes me feel, it makes me feel like I'm no good in bed, and I'm wondering is he thinking of those women when we are having sex? I also explained to him that its getting me down. I dont feel the ...

Mom wants me to be with another race!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5489 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - Hi aunts, serious problem here... my mom is obsessed with me getting married to someone of a different race of my own, I am african american and she wants me to be with someone caucasian.. She has this thing against african americans because the ...

How can I make our relationship work and get him to trust me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5488 days ago

17 November 2009 (F) - I don't know what to do, i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now, but when i'd only been with him for a month i left him for my ex. i realised how big a mistake i'd made and left him straight away. i talked to my boyfriend and he ...