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writes:Hey AuntsHeres my problem and hope you can help , Im living with my fiance and his brother , and the problem is the brother , he is 20 and just lays around the house , we all have full time jobs and i do 90% of the cooking and cleaning my fiance does as much as he can but doesnt get home till late most evenings and i home 2 hours before him , he starts an hour before me in the morning so he isnt a bit lazy !! but my futher bro in law comes home and goes straight to his room to watch tv and comes down for dinner i made and straight back upstairs , im left to empty dishwasher clean up after dinner hoover wash and do all the other things that need doing and he doesnt pay rent or buy food , im getting very very annoyed and frustrated with this but dont want to upset my future hubby as he is so kind and soft and will only try and do more then he all ready does around the house when he is at home ,We never argue but this has been a sore spot when i have mentioned it in the past and nothing every seems to change or is done about it , i dont think it should be up to me to confront him as he isnt my brother !! what should i do ??? any advice ! or am i been silly expcting more of him as im 32 he is only 20
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): i think use a bit of emotion to talk to your hubby, and tell him how you are tired and its hard work, not just because you cant be bothered doing things for this little brother...
by the sound of it your hubby is really nice and he is trying to take care of his younger brother, but just talk to him as above, and dont think he will find it hard to ask his younger brother to help out a little bit.
dont think its a good idea that you speak to the little brother, because u dont want things to be bad, and may be your hubby can use abit of guilt trip on him make him feel sorry for you that you do all the work... i know that sounds like you begging for help and he is doing you a fav... but guess what if it does the job then why not, better than an argument with a useless 20 year old, he is just young he will grow up soon...
good luck, and let me say how nice you are to do all of that for your hubby, he is really lucky
take care
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