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*arsh Khan
writes:I loved a girl but she was pressured by her parents to get married two years back, however she loved me so much that she did not let her husband come close to her which means they did not have any sexual relation, her husband is a nice guy but she cant accept him as her husband. Now my question is I want her to divorce her Husband by saying him the fact that she can't spend her life with him and she wants to marry the guy whom she loves. I'm ready to marry her, now is this right what we are doing??? I'm muslim I would prefer a islamic solution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): this woman is very very selifh towards her husband. she should stop wasting his life, after all his life is precious as well. then she can have an affair with whomever she wants. i am assuming you think she is sooooo decent so why is she cheating on her husband and having an affair with you. her husband should get rid of her from his life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): but just to add to my prev post... as i kept reading your message again and again. as it serious to ask from a woman to get divorce just so you can be with her.
as much as i told you the solution and its ok for a woman to ask for divorce... its not you who should be asking for it. she makes her mind up if she wants that or not. tell her that its possible and its ok and you will be there with out any emotional black mail kind of way, and then step back and let her make her mind up.. and what ever she chooses never make her feel guilty for it.
take care again
ws
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): salam
i never expected such a question in here, but its nice to see.
marrige in islam is really strong bond and cant just be played with. so be careful as you will be judged
HOWEVER, and i dont want people just to jump oh i want get a divorce, but if its serious as you say to the extent she never got him to toucher her.
then in islam there is something called Khula' its just as any other divorce but as you might know there is two different rullings for when man asks for divorce or woman ask for divorce, as divorce is not only in the mans hand, woman can do so too and thats khula'
so if you have a case, and as much as i feel sorry for her current husbend, she needs to speak to him first tell him she cant take it and she wants divorce, and may be he would listen if not then, she needs to go to court to a judge and ask for khula and it has to be for a good reason of course (that she cant come near him, and she wants to end this seriously..) thats it...
although as an extra point, when she got married you should of never kept in touch and moved in, you being there makes it worse.. but allah knows. so yah that is my advice to you and may allah guide both
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