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writes: hi i dont know if u can answer my question. im in love with this guy i really do love him so much, my problem is i have a child and he dont have any and he once told me that he dont want to marry a person who have a child, though it was hard to me i broke up with him and he came back saying he is sorry he loves me it was his mom who told him not to be involved with me. we are back together now but my problem is im not sure if this relationship is serious or not,c ause we never meet in a public place we always in a private places. he dont want me to introduce him to my family worse part is that he is my next door but we hardly see each other, i tried to live him but he always tell me he loves and he dont want us to be separeted. plz help coz im not happy it is three now years but nothing has changed and my problem is that i love him. help me how to tell him that im not happy about the whole thing/how to let him go and move on with my life
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): be strong dear, my wife had a child when we got married and as much as i loved her so much, at start it was hard for me to take that she has a child and i was young and didnt know if i can cope with having 2 year old boy to take care of even that i really loved the little boy too.. but then i had to make my mind up just and i just knew that she is the woman that i love and i am just been stupid to even give this a secound thought, she is my world and i wont change a thing about her nor ever have it any other way.
so my advice to you.. be serious tell him straight if he really loves you then make a serious move. or its over. give him a bit of time to think and then give you an answer and then move on from that. if he really loves you then he will if not then you got your answer and just move on..
good luck...
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 Sorry hun, time to show this man the door - he has no commitment to you, you are his secret...
If a man loves a woman he will accept her and her child/children.... so rather move on with your life...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you very much i think today its a good tym to talk to him,i will sit him down & tell him every thing dat makes me unhappy about our relation ship.thanx a lot
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 It sounds like the only honest thing this guy has said is that he could never marry a woman with a child. I think he was being pretty honest about that and then regretted saying it after your reaction, and lied to get you back. A lot of people are afraid of being alone, and a lot of people like sex, so you were probably perfect for his wants and needs and still are today. The thing about serious relationships is that there are always progressions. Serious relationships are supposed to evolve.
He won't take you out in public. He won't take you to meet his friends. As far as moving in is concerned, that's a pretty big step to jump to without even seeing his friends, you know? I just don't think he is serious about the entire situation. He may love you, but he doesn't want anything to evolve. Just sit him down one day and state that you don't think anything will come out of this relationship. That you don't think he is taking it seriously and that loving you isn't really enough. Then if you really feel that all of this is true, tell him you think it's over. Moving on is just about keeping busy. Do things that occupy your time, have fun with your kid. You deserve someone better who can actually make commitment. All the best of luck.
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