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Archived questions from: 7 April, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Do you think my husband is a sociopath?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I just found out that my husband has a lust and masterbating problem. We have been married 22 years this june. I was just blown away when I figured it out. He confessed of the lies and lusting. He has been doing this for 22 years and because of all ...

My boyfriend has a ton of online interactions. Should I leave him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - ive been with my boyfriend for just over a year. all through the year i have been findin out stuff he has been doing behind my back. at the beginning i found texts he sent to his ex saying he still loves her and she told me they met and stuff...then ...

My wife cheated with a 72 year old man. What do I do?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5179 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - I'm 28, my wife's 26. We have a 5-year-old son. Last night she said to me she had something to confess. I listened as she aadmitted to me she'd been having an affair with a 72-year-old man and that it was basically just sex for her, and that the...

Help! I'm dating a Baby-Daddy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I recently started dating a wonderful man, he's everything I could have ever hoped for. And here's the kicker he seems crazy about me too! Last week however we ran into his ex whose "very" pregnant but unsure of who the father is. And yes my man ...

Is he trying to make me feel guilty for not having sex with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I have been seeing this guy for over a month. Im 19 and he is 23 and we were friends for about 2 months before we got together. We havent done anything sexual yet but he always wants to and says that he cant help it because Im so sexy. Last nigh...

My boyfriend is hurting my self esteem

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Is it normal that my boyfriend, who is 57(I am 50)takes pictures of other women's cleavage, their butts and them in short shorts, or in a short skirt, but will not allow me to wear a low cut shirt to show off my cleavage? He tells me all the time...

Am I right to want to break up with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Check out my other posts on my huge fight with my boyfriend this weekend. But I have another huge problem. My boyfriend lied to me last night. He told me he was going out for coffee with his guy friend, and I talked to that guy friend toda...

Sleep without the sex? What is happening here?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Sleep without the sex? - Can someone explain to me why me and my boyfriend (both in our 30s - who have just started to spend the nights together)cannot innitiate sex? I do feel the relationship is a little one sided as I am madly in love with him...

Honeymoon period over but how do I get over it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - So here's the thing. I've been with my beautiful girlfriend for 18 months now. For the first 10 months everything was fine, great in fact. We fell deeply in love. She worshipped the ground I walked on. When we weren't together, she'd ring and...

I want my best friend back.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - how do i become friends with my sister again? She doesn't come around much since i had my son. She loves him to death and is his godmother. She is turning 19 years old and we have always been close. Now that im married and she doesn't really like...

Follow up: 16 year old male dating a 20 year old female (with a baby boy)...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5710 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - Mod note: This is a follow up to http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-16-dating-a-20-year-old-with.html Hi, I previously wrote about me dating a 20 year old with a baby boy but I forgot one very important detail - she's married and he knows but he d...

How can I get my girlfriend back? What is the best thing to do from here on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - i have been dating a girl for 8 months when last night she told me she wanted to break up. The reason she gave was that she had a lot of things going on in her head and she couldn't sort everything out whilst being in a relationship. she said it w...

How do I find the strength to leave this monster of a husband?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5711 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I've been married for 8 years and my marriage is going down the drain I kick my husband out 2 days ago but i don't think I'm strong enough to let go. Will he's a drunk we wen to a party and he got so wasted he dragged me around all night I didn...

Drama over a kiss!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5712 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I'm going to try to make this short but I can't promise anything. Basically my gf and I split for s weekend, and over that weekend my exbff kissed her. Then the exbff made my gf swear not to tell me until the summer because she didn't want "pro...

Hurt and confused

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5712 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - Hi everyone, thanks for taking the time to read! I've been friends with this girl for about a year and lately I've been wanting to get into a proper relationship with her, and thinking maybe she wanted it too. We've been seeing a lot of each othe...

Advice needed: Guys what would your reaction be and just what am I supposed to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - something happened 3 weeks ago that i still need to like figure out , me and my boyfriend went over to a friend's house while his parents were away , there was the 3 of us and the friend's gf , anyways we got drunk and were having fun , he was show...

As Meatloaf said "It just won't quit"

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - After a long split with my girlfriend of two years, she started seeing someone else and I found out. Since that time I tried to be as normal as possible, saying to myself I'm better than this. Since the split there have been many hot and cold time...

Follow up: How do I get over my bf (who made me feel like crap)

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-bf-is-making-me-feel-like-crap.html Thank you, all, for the responses. I have just been so confused because as one of you mentioned - yes, he does flatter me a LOT. But when it comes to the actual act of se...

She left me for someone else

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (?) - Hi so here is the situation: Me and my girlfriend were together for about a year but before we were good friends for about 5 years. It was highly passionate, and everything seemed perfect. We were both dutch, devout Christians, both had loving ...

My boyfriend wants to keep our relationship a secret whereas I want to tell the world!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend is 17 and i am 15 he said for me not to tell anyone about us going out because he thinks people will call him a perv for going out with me. i'v talked to him about it but he just doesn't want anyone to know and keeps changing his story ...

Have I missed my chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Well i'm 13 and over msn i have a best friend who has just currently turned 17, ive met him a few times and goes to my school. we were really close, and he liked me and i liked him but i didn't realize that he liked me so i didnt say anything. we...

I am just being cautious

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I just ended a relationship 2 months ago of a man whom I truly loved but who was not honest about who he was - in fact he was all likes. It was truly devastating to me. Since then I have met someone else (actually I went to school with 10 year...

My husband seems 'unplugged' from our relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5711 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - My husband and I have been married for nearly 25 years. I have found over the years that he tends to want to live 'in his own world' and becomes very unplugged within our relationship. I have found that the way to get him 'plugged back in' is extr...

I can't stop thinking about either of these men

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5712 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - i don't know what to do, sorry if i ramble a bit i think all this detail is important i am single and have really only had two significant boyfriends and i can't seem to move on and be happy. i met Boyfriend 1 in 1995 and went out with him for abo...

We lived together for 1 year and now I'm moving back home and I don't want to lose him.

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7 April 2009 (F) - This is so typical, so why am i so scared. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 1 year and 8 months. he is 23, and i am 20. we are in love and care about each other so much. when we first met i lived at home with my parents and ...

His hand curled into a fist..is this a sign that he may be abusive?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5519 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has been pretty good overall I guess. He asked me to be his gf on the second date, but I waited until 2 mos later to say yes.Before I said yes he would alway ask if I was talking to other dudes and he checked my phone once. But now h...

It's Painful During Sex..Why? Please Help!

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7 April 2009 (F) - Im in a relationship with a 50 year old man. I am 22. My Parents do not approve of the relationship, but his family are lovely towards me. We have been together for 5 years now and lived together for 3 years. The first year we lived together we were...

Follow up:Break up pain

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - This is a follow up to http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-afraid-he-will-be-gone-by-the-time-i-get-home-today.html Your Open QuestionShow me another » Broke up with my partner not sure how to feel? I wrote in a couple of times last week about...

I don't understand what I'm meant to do

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I don't understand what I'm meant to do. I was with my boyfriend 8 months and I was convinced I was in love with him. I split up with him because i couldn't handle how he treated me; he punched me, pressured me into sex, made me feel generally s...

My b/f keeps lying to me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - im so confused, me and my bf have been together 9months, through out our relationship iv caught him out many times lying, he lied about his job, he didn't tell me he had a daughter until after we slept together (he nos that i wud have never got invo...

I don't think I love my husband anymore

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5712 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I don't think I love my husband anymore. My husband and I have been married for 5 years now, we have a 2 year old son. I was married at the age of 23. At the moment we have a lot going on, I've been telling him that I feel lost and that I don't...

How do I make her mine and win her heart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - hi!! I need help on a difficult situation i find myself in once again. It all started when a female friend of mine hooked me up with her best friend. I was instantly attracted to her the very moment i was introduced to her, she was atracted to me t...

We were drunk, skinny dipping and my lady grabbed my friend's package!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5680 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - Hey, Ive been seeing my girl for about 1 year and a bit and generally things are sweet and our relationship is mostly healthy on all levels. A small issue for me is her flirting when we go out drinking. Typically it doesnt bother me as im quite ...

How do I know that this is real love and not lust?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5711 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I am married and have a son, he is 6. My husband is probably "the perfect husband " I have completely fallen in love with someone else. I don't actually know what to do, i cant bear the thought of taking my sons father away from him. How do i ge...

Should I confront him or just leave it and hope it all works out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - ive been going out with my bf for about 7 months now and i thought things were going really well. Ive met his family, hes met mine and we all get on really well etc. The only thing is we haven't had sex yet. we tried once but i was nervous as it w...

How can u tell if a man still loves you?

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7 April 2009 (M) - Id like to ask all the men out there a question. I'm a woman confused about men, so who better to ask :) right! The question is, how can u tell if a man still loves you? My ex broke my heart, i let him go because that is what he wanted and that...

My partner is tight with his money, even for our own daughter! Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - hi. me and my partner are living apart we have a daughter he has always been tight with his money. we split up for a while because he was controlling and seems to have very little interest in our daughter he will spend time with her but it usually ...

Should I give her a second chance or move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - I have been going out with this girl for about 6yrs. About three years ago, I had to move to another country having got a good job. We have remained in touch almost every single day. We have met a couple of times but had intended to possibly sett...

Why does he do these things to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - ok, i have been together with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, and i am only 18 we have a WONDERFUL relationship for the most part, when we're together were so happy and are inseparable, until he's with his friends. ill call him and he'll be e...

Do I wait and hope she comes back, if it's meant to be?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - Looking for some help. My friends wife (which became my best friend)and I fell in love. Her marriage is falling apart and she doesn't think it will last. Me and him are no longer friends because he is selfish, cronic liar, etc... Anyway, we have ...

I hate cheaters! But OMG, I could be one of them! What to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I have always despised cheaters, I never could really understand how a person could stay in a relationship yet be with another. And then, I found myself in a situation where I could see myself cheating. I am not in an official relationship with...

I want to be able to tell my teacher that I love him again, but I can't,

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (?) - My teacher and i have become insanely close, it's even gotten to the point where we are saying i love you. over my whole spring break we spent every day together. every time he would drop me off at my house i would kiss him on the cheek, hug him,...

How do I deal wit his careless & selfish actions?

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7 April 2009 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for 7yrs off and on, I've been thru hell and hot water with him. He has just recently found out that he has a baby by a 3 month fling!!! I love this man with all my heart. I'm Extremely hurt by his careless and self...

What should I do? I like my [married] boss

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - i like my boss a lot and i think she likes me. i have a fear that if i make a pass at her, i may have been wrong that she likes me and from then on my days here are numbered. she is married though but i know for a fact that they hate each other and ...

LDR advice needed!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - This is a two part question. I've been seeing a guy who lives two hours away. We've exchanged great conversation, text messages, and emails during the time I'm not there visiting. It wasn't until this week I noticed him leaving out "sweetie" and ...

Men and Mood Swings

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I live with my boyfriend and boy does he have bad mood swings. He's always snapping and the relationship has to follow his flow. If he wants to be alone, then ill have to go sit in the bedroom so he can have the living room to himself. And he wont...

Are we headed downhill to destruction?

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7 April 2009 (F) - I live with my boyfriend and we both have each others passwords for everything including Faceook and email. We both look through each others phones too. I looked through his face book inbox and i found that there was innocent messages like, "Hi swee...

My b/f loves tap dancing, and I love a Man's man. What do I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5712 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have been dating my boyfriend for four years. We are both in our early thirties and hope to have a long future together. My problem is this, though I love my boyfriend very much, I am having issues with his masculinity. I am very att...

What should I do? I realized my fling is my true love!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I have been with this guy for about 1.5 year, and I thought he was my soulmate, everything I ever wanted. Then, 5 months ago I got very close with one of my male friends.. and with time we even had a thing going on (me and my boyfr...

My man doesn't want to hang out with me anymore

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5703 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - im going through alot of stress. I got angry over something really dumb and told my man "i do so much for u and u cant be here for me when i need u!?" he got mad and felt i was throwing what i do for him in his face. I apologized and he said it was ...

What can I do different to make my husband say wow!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - i am blank in my marriage it is like i am doing but it is not enough or good enough what can i do to spice up my marriage not only sex wise. And what can i do different to make my husband say wow.''''' what else can i do to make him smile. t...

Why is he asking how many boys have I've slept with??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Hey ive been kinda of seeing this boy..i met him a few weeks ago but we get on so well. Anyway was with him tonight just chilling and he started asking questions about my past and how many boys ive slept with etc and was wondering why it concerns ...

Shy guy. Should I ask him or should I just let it go?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - My classmate who works a club got us in. At school he seems to be shy and keeps to himself, but at work he seem to be more relaxed. He had been complimenting me all night and told my friend that he was a shy guy. Then next thing I know we are making ...

HELP! Such a confusing situation!!!!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - gawd, i went down the country with my girlfriends and i happened to meet this wonderful guy!together the whole night,(didnt sleep with one another, he tried ofcourse typical man! but im not like that!) any way, he found my number on face book (he...

My partner is verbally abussive and unsupportive but I love him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Hi, My BF and I have been together for just over 5 years. In that time we have had a lot of ups and downs, partly due to him still sorting out the legal side of his divorce with his ex wife and worrying about what he would lose in the divorce. ...

I love her...Her family hates me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - I love this woman im am in a relationship with, we have been together for 6 months now and well heres the story behind it all so that you guys can help me..... We fell in love last november and her family doesnt like me at all because im not a quite ...

Caught him " looking for an intimate encounter"../

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend has been recently caught with a profile on adultfriendfinder.com. His profile listed he was looking for an intimate encounter. He described himself as easygoing , that location didnt matter, he would travel or move to be with the right ...

I am so lost and scared to be hurt further...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5712 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I need help with a confusing relationship....? I have been dating this guy for the past year. We had the whole commitment talk like 3 months in. At about 6 months he became confused and we took like a week off, still talking the whole time. He ended...

Possible to forgive AND forget?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5713 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Do you think people can forgive and forget. Do you think a relationship can continue and grow after someone has betrayed you... My boyfriend was the definition of a loyal, kind, caring man that would do anything for someone in need. He had kin...

I don't want to go on this huge family vacation

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5712 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - My husband mentioned that next year his entire family (i.e. parents, siblings, brother in law, kids) might be going on vacation together. I really do not want to go on a family vacation with all of them because it's not exactly my idea of a ...

She rebounded with a married man! Any hope?

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 5706 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - The short story: We've been friends since she was a young kid (she was 11 when we met up online, younger sister of one of my other friends) and I've always been a role model/big brother/etc. whatever to her. someone to look up to. We share some ...

Should I let him back into my life?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - Ummm....hey all cupiders! Instead of givin u the whole boring run down here's how it is....okay I had a friend some of u know him cause of what I've told u....but first of all he was my best friend, then I fell in love with him yadda yadda, then he ...

We don't have a thousand years...How would this gesture be preceived?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - If i put a box of chocolates on her desk, saying " We dont have a thousand years, we don't have a hundred years, its time to be friends please." Do you think after a break up that was over 15 months ago where i found she was seeing someone e...

Is she sincere or just clearing her conscience?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (M) - Hey Guys, I met up with my ex after a painful break-up (on both sides). She cheated on me whilst overseas, and left me for that person. Anyway we had a nice night together catching up and sharing a laugh. At the end of the night she though she s...

I feel like a single mother in a bad relationship.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

7 April 2009 (F) - I don't even know where to begin with this situation. I am 26 and have an 8 month old son with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. My son was not planned and took us both by complete surprise. My bf has another child from a previous relationship that he ...