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female
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anonymous
writes:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-bf-is-making-me-feel-like-crap.htmlThank you, all, for the responses. I have just been so confused because as one of you mentioned - yes, he does flatter me a LOT. But when it comes to the actual act of sex, he immediately shoots me down and then becomes more and more frustrated the less I approach him for sex. He's told me that there are two things that will make him treat me well and one of those things is good sex.I have always let him know that he makes me feel amazing and makes me feel better physically than I ever have (it's true), and I have NEVER once said that someone else was superior to him in ANY way.But I get such mixed signals emotionally and verbally (he has told me how all of the 48 women he's been with have 'f*cked him better', that they're intelligent multi-lingual, had big chests and tighter p*ssies.Also, when I got home from work last night, i was exhausted because I was up until the wee hours of the night the night before helping him with a project for his work. I said that I really needed to get to sleep early because I felt like I was getting two ear infections. I immediately put on my pajamas and was getting ready to have a snack before getting into bed and he starts to interrogate me "he likes thongs?" I asked him who he was speaking about and he replied with "the guy you are always with, I knew it".Twenty minutes he tells me that I have to stay awake to help with continue the project for his work or he will find another girl in the building to help him and that I have to dedicate my work time at MY job to help him or else I am putting my work and my friends and my Life before him. :( i have no more fight left in me.I have hurt myself in the past because some of the things he has said to me have driven me so ultimately low that I see no out - although I know there is an out, I just can't emotionally get myself there. I have started seeing a therapist because of the things he says to me and how I let them affect me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): You need to decide if you can muster enough love and respect for yourself to get out of an appallingly abusive relationship. It's up to you. You're obviously aware of how destructive it is, so grow a pair and get the &$#@ away from him!
And btw, those are not "mixed signals"!!!! They are very clearly emotional abuse!!!! Be strong and get out now. Best of luck.
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