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writes:I live with my boyfriend and boy does he have bad mood swings. He's always snapping and the relationship has to follow his flow. If he wants to be alone, then ill have to go sit in the bedroom so he can have the living room to himself. And he wont talk to me or even look at me. When we first went out, he used to compliment me all the time, what happened to all that? Gone. If he's suddenly happy, after not speaking to me for a day, he expects me to be all peachy...well i cant tolerate this anymore, why does it always have to be on his terms? how bout the way i feel?Is this going from bad to worst? Why is it only about him? Reply to this Question
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 There is also the probability that he has an undiagnosed disorder, albeit in a very mild form. His "up" appears to be a manic state, while his "down" appears to be a depressive state. But only an analyst/psychiatrist can determine and give you the appropriate medical/psychological evaluation on him.
But, regardless of whether he does or does not have bipolar or other disorder, you need to talk to him to talk to a professional. Once it is discovered what he is suffering from, proper steps can be taken to manage his mood swings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for your response. Will see how it is tonight, ill talk to him. But we been fighting alot lately, and i dont want to bring it up to him. Ill let you know.
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reader, Rajesh Nair  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 Did you ever try and find the reason as to why he wants to be left alone? There are times when we all need to spend some time with ourselves. There are times when we need to introspect about something that concerns our lives. That precisely may be the reason for his behavior. Or may be its just his way of relaxing after a day's work. We all are different in our own unique beautiful ways. What matters is that we stay together, while giving each other space.I understand that this kind of behavior is causing you frustration, but you could always talk about it to him, when he is in the happy mood. Ask him calmly, as to why he does all this. Tell him about your concerns of him continuing with such a behavior. And maybe he'll agree to change and do something about it. Remember, when in love, its not about "mine" or "yours", its about "us" and "ours". Its about making things work together. Take an initiative and work out a good solution mutually. Let us know if things work out for the better. All the best!!! Cheers :)
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reader, niki20  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 its a guy thing. im married and we didnt live together when we got married. weve been married for a year now, however my husbands the same way wont talk about his problems, or anything. just try and think of it as a man period. there are times im sure when you just want to be alone to. dont look at it as something personal. maybe he had a bad day at work, or maybe hes just not feeling it. when a guy gets in that mood, its best to just not nag him w/ questions if he is ok or wants to talk. but try and make a time for you to go out and just relax. its stressful and hard for women not to ask is everything alright but we all need space. goodluck. let me know if anything changes.
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