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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:i am blank in my marriage it is like i am doing but it is not enough or good enough what can i do to spice up my marriage not only sex wise. And what can i do different to make my husband say wow.''''' what else can i do to make him smile. the only thing he is holding on to is love and that is not enough. can u help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, NightLad  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 The most important thing is to get two-way communication going. You may get a million different responses to your question on-line, but the only person who you will be guaranteed to get the 'right' answer from is your husband.Let him know that you want to rekindle the old spark in your marriage, and that you are open to discussing fun and mutually enjoyable activities. Reassure him that there are no ‘wrong’ answers. Think of some suggestions yourself and then see what he has to say. Do not approach the conversation like a sudden pop-quiz, he may feel ambushed and put on the spot and clam up. Try to make it fun, and if he shows signs of interest, get him to talk about what he likes about your suggestion. Maybe you can branch off and build from there.A starting suggestion; Massages work well, because they offer a moment of intimacy and physical connection without (necessarily) sex. They also give a quiet atmosphere in which to open up and speak, but remember that some people rather just lay there and enjoy, so if he does not seem chatty don't take it personally.Maybe he has some activities he’d like to include you in, or there are things you can do as a couple.
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