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Archived questions from: April, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Is it wrong of me to want her ex gone from our lives?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5073 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Okay so..I have run out of options and need advice. This might be long so sorry ahead of time. My gf and i have been together for a year and 4 months. Now the problem is that my gf is moving to a new place and her ex is her friend that is m...

What do I do about a best friend, who no longer wants to be in contact with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - If your best friend wasn't very good at keeping in contact before she left for uni and now she is even worse. When I text her she says she has to have space and she'll text you when she's ready. Which she never text first before anyways. What does ...

I really like her, but she gets on my nerves! Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I like this one girl named "Emily" but I just cant stand her. I mean that I am in love with her but sometimes she can get on my nerves. I dont think that she likes me though. I have had a crush on her for about a month. She is a straight as a line ...

I feel like I"m one one his lower priorities

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend is good man,gives me lots of affection. yet i can't help but feel that i'm one of the lower priorites in his life.whenever i wanna do something,go somwhere,ask him to do somthing,it's always wait,i'm tired or i have plans with my ...

Tempted by another man...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Me and my Boyfriend have been together 4 years off and on, im sure i love him i know he loves me, but ive been talking to another guy and met up with once, im 23 and im not sure if its being with him from such a young age....now im tempted to ...

Please help me I feel so torn

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - 2 months ago I met a man online that lived a few hours from me. We ended up talking on the phone every day. He told me was single at first but a few weeks later I found out he had a baby girl and I asked him if he was married but he told me he wa...

Does he want to give up on us?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I have been hanging out with this guy off and on for 5 months. I text him and ask,Can we try and have a relationship? He says,i will have to think about the whole relationship thing. A day went by and i still had not heard anything from him. I ...

We only have sex about once a month but I want more!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hi,iv been with my bf for nearly four years now and living together for 2. I love being with him cos we have loads in commen and everything but he just doesnt get intimate with me much at all anymore,it hurts when we go to bed at night and he wont ...

I think we are still in love but he is getting married! Help please!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I have a question that I really need help answering. I have been in love with this man for almost 4 years, we dated for about 2 years and then we broke it off and decided to remain best friends. Trouble is I am still in love with him and I t...

I feel he is cheating but I need to be sure before I confront him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - my mate leaves real early every morning and stays gone for 10 to 12 hours a day he is retired when he comes home he goes to sleep and he phone is ringing for awhile but he wont answer it he shower shaves and smell good but dont pay me any ...

My husband's new hobby is taking over his life leaving no time for me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - My husband has started becoming obsessed with eating and drinking to the exclusion of everything else (excluding personal hygiene matters). He's spending time with a new group of friends who like to go round the city and eat at all the restaura...

Why is the man I was with for 16 years trying to make my life a living hell?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Just a vent more than a question. I HATE MY EX. He left me and his 2 toddlers for a 22 year old. Gt to love it. I got over him leaving, we weren't happy. However, I am angry that he tried to proof I was unfit in court to get full custody which was ...

Can another person make you anxious or be the cause of irrational behaviour?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hi, my question is, can someone make u anxious or be the cause of irrational behavour. My boyfriend is a good person but i hav noticed that i change when i am around him. Wen we were together i had problems with anxiety then after we split it seemed ...

This is not some two-bit affair.....but I'm wondering if he actually loves me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5677 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Some advice please,I am in a relationship with a man who is married and I have been on and off for 30yrs,and i know a lot of you out there are going to be critical of me.but maybe some of you will understand.This man has been married for over 40yrs ...

I'm not anyone's girlfriend but all these guys keep getting mad at me!

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30 April 2009 (F) - fucking men give me a head ache. i have always had my fair share of men. all kinds of guys. i havent been single for a very long time it used to be days before i had found me a new one. and now since i moved to the boonies of up state new york i ...

I told my crush how I felt but I still don't know how he feels!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - So I finally decided to tell my crush how I feel. Didn't work out well. I tried speaking in our native tongue, but I ended up stuttering so I decided to speak in English. I actually planned everything I was going to say, but they all slipp...

I'm terrible at reading women!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - My problem is, I am terrible at reading females. Unless it is very obvious, I can't always tell if a female is interested in me or not. There is this one female that I am interested in; the first time I asked her out she told me she wasn't single, ...

I feel cheated in bed!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - my boyfriend and i have been together for a long time now. we have struggled with his impotence problem from the very start of our relationship. i want us to have that bond sexually. 95% of the time the sex is not very good. i do what i can to ...

She wont let go of her past, should I let her go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - Hi I'm in this relationship with this girl she's 26, extremely pretty and sweet. I believe her main problem is that I've noticed she can't let go of her past, an ex-boyfriend to be specific. She says she is not in love with him, but she's constantly ...

Is he being my friend or playing mind games with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5686 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - A guy I work with is married and we are friends. I gave him the cold shoulder to adjust my self after an hurtful 'emotional affair', we did nothing wrong as he would stress to me. during a abreif make up session he said we are cut from the same ...

I'm scared I will end up ruining this relationship too!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5427 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Hey everyone! Hope someone can give me some advice. I'm in a really great relationship with a guy I really care about, but I seem to be in danger of ruining it in the same way that I have several of my previous relationships. The other night...

My boyfriend complains I don't tell him enough how I feel about him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I've only been with him for 4 months but he's complaining that he doesn't know if I like him or not and that I don't compliment him or tell him how much I like him. I just got out of a long term relationship and started this one shortly after. I ...

Our relationship is all one-sided but I'm having trouble letting go!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I really dont know what to do. I have been in a relationship with this guy 9 years my junior, usual story it was great at first, we have had lots of problems to be honest a lot he has caused, i could list a few incidences and in isolation, it doesnt ...

Its still early days but I'm worried I'm being used!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5657 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I've been seeing this guy for about a month now. We have a lot in common, and we have a great time when we're together, which has generally been at weekends. This weekend a friend of his in in town and naturally he's arranging to meet up with ...

Even though her ex has moved out I am still her secret lover and I want more!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - I've been married twice and have four children two from each marrage, I see my children every weekend and share holidays. Seven months ago through the internet I met up with a girl that I had not seen in 23 years. She was in a form of relationship ...

His bit on the side is returning to work in the summer....how do I stop these doubts?

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30 April 2009 (F) - Need a bit of advice to cut a long story short my h/b had an affair with a married girl at work i found out he finished it straight away he was off work himself for 6 months we spent all these months together 24/7 she stayed with her husband and ...

Should I just come clean and suffer the consequences rather than wait for him to do it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5691 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - right here goes, ive had a relationship with a none blood relative, to be honest he was my nephew for 7 years until my brother and his mum split up we are both in our thirties and should probably of known better, now the problem is ive got feelings ...

Why doesn't she leave me if the fault is in me that I am not able to be even her genuine friend??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - i broke up all contacs with my ex girlfriend... I deleted my facebook and changed my mobile number, I'm trying my level best to avoid her and that too gently and politely taking atmost care not to hurt her too much... before we departed she said she ...

We fight all the time because she doesn't understand me, how can I avoid a break up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - Hi I have been going out with my girl for 1 and a half years already. we have had a lot of problems in the past because of me. In the beginning i did not care about her and did not pay much attention to her. She used to go crazy about me. after sh...

Is he cheating? please let me know what you think?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - Is he cheating? pls tell me what you think..thanks..? Hey guys..I need an objective opinion asap. I have been going out for a guy for 10 months. For the last 2-3 months we were on and off and every time we had a fight he would dump on me. I gu...

I'm falling for my FWB; how should I let him know?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5691 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - I am unsure on how to approach my fwb about making our relationship more committed. We have been seeing each other for almost a year now and things are great but he says he does not want a gf. We spend so much time together and always have fun. We ...

Did she try to kill her feelings for me to justify starting a new relationship?

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30 April 2009 (M) - Ok heres the breakdown. My ex gf of a year broke up with in Dec, and from what I hear started hanging out with this new guy almost within 2 weeks of breaking up with me. However we continued to talk casually throughout this time, with her even ...

Is she just the rebound girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5691 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - okay here's the story. my girlfriend and i went out for about 2 years. were both 15. and we broke up 2 or 3 weeks ago idk because she has to many bad habits smoking,drinkin, and always flirting with her ex. yeah she may seem like a bad girlfriend ...

My married friend is getting very friendly with me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5691 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - One of my european friends makes me uncomfortable and I don't know what to do about it. When we hang out with her husband she always tell me how handsome I am and how lucky any woman would be to go out with me. She really plays it up and I feel...

I prefer to be their aquaintance rather than a friend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

30 April 2009 (F) - We live in a small community and our children go to a small school. There is a couple whom we have kids in the same grade with. This couple has always been very cliquish with another couple. (They were really good friends, and they were almost ...

How can I make my ex choose me over my friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

30 April 2009 (M) - I dated a girl for a few years before she broke up with me a few weeks ago. Although we were not in a long distance relationship, we could not always see each other due to a number of reasons, and it has gotten worse lately. I became too ...

Why am I being ignored all of a sudden??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months now, and I thought everything was fine between us, but suddenly he has been completely ignoring me for the past few days. We live two and a half hours apart and only get to see each other on the ...

How do I tell him the truth? Please help.

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29 April 2009 (F) - I work in a small shop with a male lead sales assistant. We get on well, and ever since I started he made me feel welcome and comfortable. Also, we are both very shy and can be quiet. The problem is I blush when we talk (maiden shyness etc) which he ...

I need help! Why doesn't my husband want to have sex with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4513 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - My husband never wants to have sex with me. Our sex life consists of me giving him blow jobs and very, very occassionally he might grace me with a couple of minutes penetration to stop me grumbling. I am sooooooo sexually frustrated and m...

Can someone give me ideas on how to perform better to either save my job or to build a relationship with the big boss?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5690 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - This time it is a work issue. I have been with this company for 8 months. I have just received feedback from the executive boss, who wrote very harsh words that left me feeling distraught.... This is a mid-management position. it is the first tim...

Opinions needed. Does he deserve another chance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I will be there at 3.30pm. He doesnt respond it and he doesnt pick up my phones either. so I went home without seeing him. he texted me back and he forgot to take his phone with him while he was eating thats why he couldnt respond so we couldnt ...

Please tell me if you can think of anything I can do to try and make up for what I did.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - About 4 and a half months ago my wife cheated on me. The affair had been going on for almost two months before I found out. When I found out I instantly forgave my wife and asked her to stay with me. She was going to leave me for him. However he ...

Why is he scared to come near me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I have a class with this one guy. I've just recently noticed something. If I'm around he won't come near me. If I'm talking to his friends he will either go sit by himself or he will sit off to the side and wait for me to leave. There was a seat ...

Secretive boyfriend makes me paranoid

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Hopefully someone can help me.. have been with a guy for 2years broke up (for the 100th time) recently bcos theres is no trust what so ever, i know yer probably thinkin "no trust no future" but god do we love eachother!! We have tried to end it ...

Deteriorating relationship already?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - Two months ago I started dating my boyfriend, and it was going pretty well. We live about 2 1/2 hours away from each other, so we would talk on the phone every night and then take turns visiting each other on the weekends. He hasn't really ever ...

Man whore got me knocked up!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5690 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - sooo im not in the best situation right now im a very privalaged kid. i have alot i have a nice flexible job my own car my own house a nice allowence. yeah i have my far share of partying and all that jazz. but i have been hooking up with this guy ...

I cant stand living with my ex now he has a new girlfriend but he doesn't want me to move out!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - I'm really confused and am wondering if anyone can help me understand my situation more please. I split up with my boyfriend in September 2007 but we stayed friends, then in November 2007, after a short relationship with another girl, he asked m...

I tried to slow down our relationship and now she has moved on to a 60 year old guy!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - Hi, I met a woman about a month ago - we got along great. I had reservations because her previous boyfriend had left her just 2 months prior and she would talk about him often and how bad he treated her. I did not want to be her rebound guy...

Unemployed boyfriend is being too picky about what job he would take!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (F) - my guy has been unemployed for about seven months now. he has been looking for a job but not on a consistant basis. he is still living with family. when we are together i pay for most of our entertainment. i don't feel obligated to do it but i ...

She claims she really wants to be with me but I don't know if it's real!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5691 days ago

29 April 2009 (M) - This Is a bad situation to begin with i know. About 2 months ago now i was reintroduced to my friends cousin who is/was Engaged, Red flag right there i know. Last time i met here was a few years back, I always had feelings for her, and i find out ...