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female
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36-40,
*shleymc1987
writes:My boyfriend has been recently caught with a profile on adultfriendfinder.com. His profile listed he was looking for an intimate encounter. He described himself as easygoing , that location didnt matter, he would travel or move to be with the right person. His profile had no activity he had no sent or received an emails on it. He realized you had to pay to contact anyone so decided to not go on it again because he does not have a credit card..or just didn't want to pay for such services I am not sure. We have an extremely intimate relationship, but have never made that the centre of it. We have never had sex which was my decision because I did not feel ready yet. He has never pushed me to do so with me and was very understanding.He told me he never inteded to meet and have sex with anyone , that he just wanted to meet people. Do you think this is cheating. Do you think this is something to forgive him for. Do you think if he had the fund he would have purchased a membership. I have no issue with porn, but i think to take the time to make a profile and even include his wishes is such a huge betrayal and has destroyed our relationship. I deleted the account, but he said he would have had i not. He has given me flowers and a teddy..sworn on everything that he would never do something like that again that he would never cheat on me etc. What are your thoughts on this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): I don't know the two of you or how long you have been together or when he set up this account, how long ago was it and were you in a committed relationship at the time?
You have to decide if you are going to trust him or not and if you love him enough to move forward. I can't answer those questions about what he would have done or why he did it....only he has the answers to those.
He needs to earn back your trust and you have to choose whether or not you can forgive him.
I would start with a dialogue and ask him why he wanted to have sex with strangers and if the lack of sex in your relationship had anything to do with it. Ask him how he views cheating and fidelity to make sure you both have the same ideas on those issues and just talk about your futures and what you want out of this relationship.
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