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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I really need to move on from this relationship -- how can I do it?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I cant get over my ex. I met him when i was 17. We moved in together we i was 19 he was 20. The 1st couple of years were great. Then he started going out with lads not coming home on a weekend making me feel worthless lying to me about where he...

I don't know how to fix all the bad things I've said to him and now he's dying...

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - This isn't really about relationship, dating, love, or sex but I need help anyways. Well, actually I guess it could count as a relationship because I have a daughter/dad relationship with my dad. Well I'm fifteen. My dad has been out of my life a...

She seems to have time for friends and other strangers, but not for me...

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21 April 2009 (M) - Hey guys, I not sure about a thing here; Am I being too jealous? My girlfriend seems to have less interest in me. She didn't call, or send me a message on facebook for 2 days. Usually we talk every day, But she messages this other guy; Finishing ...

Help! Is this the beginning of the end for us?

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21 April 2009 (F) - I have been going out with my girlfriend for 4 months now and when we started going out things were great, but now she does not want to spend as much time with me any more. I understand that we need to spend time apart, but do this mean it's the ...

We get on great most of the time but I can't take the verbal abuse from him much longer.

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21 April 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 5 months now, I'm 24 and he's 21. Lately we have been arguing about everything, he gets mad if I don't call him when I leave or get somewhere but then he does the same thing sometimes and I don't get ...

How could my best friend's dad stoop so low as to offend his own daughter?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - My best friend had her "wedding" this weekend, well, it was a wedding but she couldn't go through with it. It wasn't because of her groom - he's an absolutely lovely guy. It wasn't because of worries about the wedding - she was so happy to get marr...

Boyfriend's ex flirting with him -- in front of me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5698 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Hello. So, I was wondering if you could give me some advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for four months now and have been very strong together. I know I'm young but don't worry I am not doing anything illegal or anything I will regret, n...

Should I end it with my b/f?

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21 April 2009 (F) - Ok so, i have been with my bf for nearly 6 months, an we've started arguing, a lot. It's mostly about how clingy he is and how he cant take a joke without having a temper tantrum like a small child. But i don't know what to do, apart from anything ...

He has this attitude like, I’m lucky that he is even here.

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21 April 2009 (F) - About 7 years ago I was married to my husband; everything seemed to be ok up until about 4 years ago our 3 children and I moved out of state expecting for him to follow shortly. It took him a year to come get here. Then after being here for a month ...

Cheated on the love of my life

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5692 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I Cheated on my boyfriend. I am wracked with guilt. I have been with my boyfriend for five months and already know hes the guy I'm going to marry. There is no doubt in my mind hes the one for me. Yet I cheated. Not any excuse for this. He li...

LDR--Am I being a fool?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Hi i have been in a LDR for almost a year and a half, i usually see my boyfriend about two days each fortnight. He had a job up my way this thursday and said that after he had done that we could go out for a few hours afterwards. I spoke with...

Help I thought I was with her but it was all a lie,

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21 April 2009 (M) - Ok so Here's a long story cut short, I've been mates with this girl for 8 years, she was with her ex and engaged to get married for 4 years, she said she didn't wanna be with him no more, she wants to be with me so she dumped him and said can I be ...

How to deal with his ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5684 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I have been talking to a guy since the past five months. He's a wonderful person and extremely decent. We both met through common friends and my friend gave my number to him since I am single and he’s also single so we both exchanged numbers. ...

I get visions of my girlfriend cheating on me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

21 April 2009 (M) - I get visions of my girlfriend cheating on me. I don't know if it's the paranoia that I have created in my mind or she is truly cheating on me. In the past, she hasn't shown any traits of doing so, in fact she has always been very loyal and t...

Please can you help me make sense of him here.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I just wanted to ask you all a question: I told a guy I liked him, but he said it's not possible because of the age difference and the fact that he has a girlfriend. Although we are very close still, as friends and have talked about ...

I hate what he did to me...

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21 April 2009 (F) - I need more advice please especially from people who have actually been there done that type of thing.... ok so is been about 2 weeks now my bf and I broke up, I went to the club this weekend and found him there with another girl, of course I fought ...

Do you think this guy deserves a second chance? I am very hurt, I don't need him in my life any more.

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21 April 2009 (F) - I have been in this realationship for the past 4 years. I have given my all to this guy, I had to change my ways just so we could be happy. He has been everything I ever wanted in a man. Last year I caught him cheating with a girl from outside ...

My husband has said if I don't partake in his sick fantasy he will leave me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5676 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I have been married for last 5 years and am madly in love with my husband. Since last year he has been fantasizing for a threesome. He is forcing me go for it with him, at the same time he does not want to commit that this is his fantasy and ...

We are on a break now, but am I wasting my time on him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Hi, i am a 38 year old female and after a two year relationship with a guy that i really care for a lot we have decided to take a break as we have no sex life, in fact the last time we had sex was May 08. He tended to go missing for periods of time...

I'm torn between two men and its so confusing!

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21 April 2009 (F) - Im a torn between two men and its so confusing! My ex wants me back and a new man does to but hes wiv someone. I was with my ex 3 yrs on/off but bascially we keep spilting up cos i want more in the relationship. Hes always going off doing thin...

Am I reading to much into this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 yrs. He was going through a divorce when we met but that was finalized over 2 yrs. ago. The problem that I have is that he is still on his ex wife's cell phone plan so when he calls me, her name show...

I'm lost for sex turn ons and ready to give up... Advice Please!!!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5694 days ago

21 April 2009 (M) - I dated my wife for four years. She believed in no sex before marriage so we didn't have sex even though she wasn't a virgin. On our wedding night we had sex and she seemed to enjoy it. In the following months we had sex once or twice but she just...

This guy just hurt my feelings. I'm going to move on but I don't know how to stop texting him.

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21 April 2009 (F) - This guy just hurt my feelings. I'm going to move on but I don't know how to stop texting him. Do you have any advice on how I can forget him and move on? I told him that he hurt my feelings and he didn't really care to much. Well if he doesn't care ...

Should I try and pursue this relationship through University?

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21 April 2009 (M) - Hi, I've been in a relationship for almost a year and a half with my girlfriend. We Were/are both in love with each other but a couple months ago we broke up briefly when she was questioning our relationship and kissed another guy due to this. D...

I can't live with my husband but I can't live without him either.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I'm not sure if I'm "RIGHT or WRONG" I'm a married women and have a child 4 years old. My problem is my husband thinks that he is the boss in our marriage, whatever he says he thinks it should go, ok like when it was his birthday, I ...

How do I resolve this situation with my boyfriend of 9 months?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I am madly in love with my boyfriend of 9 months. For half of the relationship he was nothing but an asshole because he was depressed. I've been under some stress lately and I have been acting pretty stupid, bitching at him all the time, flipping ...

When I don't see her it's as if I just don't exist...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I'm a gay girl in a relationship! I have been with my girl for 3 months, but I liked her for 5 months before we got together, but didn't think she was interested so I started seeing someone else, then my girl tells me she is jealous that I'm seeing ...

Is this normal after a break up or am I avoiding the whole thing?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Myself and partner broke up about 3 weeks ago. He moved out of my house. I was pretty upset the first week. We had been doing a fair bit of arguing during the lead up to the break up. This is his third week being gone and I haven't seen him around. ...

Shall I ask to be friends with my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (M) - I am still very fond of an ex who cheated on me, It was sometime ago and I know things haven’t worked out for her with him and they never would. She has played games with me and I have I guess played games with her. I know now we can never b...

How should I act so he won't dislike me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I started my new relationship with a guy who is 11 years older than me 3 days ago. I am 22 and he is 34. I like him but I think I am also paranoid. The days after we got together, he text me to ask me how I was doing. He didn't come to see me during ...

I'm so tired of chasing him, how can I get him to chase me for once?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I have been dating this guy for the past few months although we never actually established what we officially were. He had to go to the hospital a while back and have some surgery, which was scary, but he has been out for around three weeks now and ...

Could you give me any ideas what I could do to put a stop to this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - hi, i need some sound advice pls. i have been in a relationship for 13 years the first year i ended it twice but the second time i found out i was pregnant so we gave it another go he asked me to marry him and i said yes. for the first 4 years i ...

Engaged but thinking of the other guy. What should I do?

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21 April 2009 (F) - Hi, my name is "Sh" i've been in a long lasting crush over a guy i know since i was 15 years old. for the last 3 years we were talking and he was flirting all the time but never said anything serious. recently i met another guy he was serious from...

What should I do if I bump into my ex again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5700 days ago

21 April 2009 (M) - in febraury, my (ex)girlfriend broke up with me although sayin everything would be the same except no sex. she wasnt normal (i guess cuz she missed me) and we havnt spoke to each other since then. as time went by, typical things have happened such ...

Question for men: Does porn get you off or is it a fantasy that you would like to act out for real?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I'd like to ask any men out there,if you get off on something on porn movies does this mean it is a fantasy that you would like to act out for real??? My partner of 7 years has been watching porn ,but 95% of it was anal sex!I decided to ask him if t...

Follow up: Starting a relationship when one is in jail

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Okay i Know i just asked a question but i don't think i was clear and it was confusing.. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/starting-a-new-relationship-while-one-is-in.html Here it goes... **************...

He says he is not sure if he wants a relationship. Is there anything I can do to change his mind?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I have been "dating" this guy for two months now. He says that he really likes me but doesn't see the need to label our relationship, at least not yet because he is not ready to be my boyfriend and he hasnt had a girlfriend in 2 years. My frie...

What are we doing?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Ok this is going to take a real open minded person or professional cuz this is a very different kind of relationship with a very different kind of man. Ok I met and married who I believed was the love of my life. Life and love was great for 6mon...

Please help ASAP! Should I stay or should I go?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5699 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Okay- so i've been seeing this guy for about 4 months on and off. I've been taking things very slow because I really like him and I wasn't sure at the begining but my feelings have grown more and more lately. BUT- at the begin. when he was very into...

Who do I choose? My husband or the other guy?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5061 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - I'm on a fence. Still. But I think I'm falling for this guy who is not my husband. Why can't I leave my husband then??? Every time I see my guy or see a photo of him I think, I need him, I want him. He wants me, he says thats all he wants is me...

What can I do to keep him? I really do love this man but I'm scared!!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5696 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - i got to be honest so I am kinds worried about my relationship. I have been so mean to my boyfriend for awhile know. I'm not too sure why buy I get so mad at him and sometimes its not his fault. I love him with everything I can! We are both under a ...

Wants to be friends -- is there hope for a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

21 April 2009 (M) - Hello guys, and thanks for reading my question. I recently broke up with my handsome about a month back, and he felt that it was better to be friends and was not ready for a relationship. I was hurt and upset and a bit emotional for a while, how...

Why do I stay with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - Tonight I wanted to have sex w my boyfriend and we were kissing and I was giving him oral sex and asked him to kiss me down there and when he went down on me he told me that I was too dry and he didn't want to have sex. I was disappointed because I ...

He's sick and he's pushing me away

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5700 days ago

21 April 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is pushing me away because he is sick. He was there for me and saw me almost die last year when i was sick. He is going through a nasty divorce and his kids have already chosen the other side. He says he can't choose me over them ...

We're no longer as lovey dovey

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5697 days ago

21 April 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 months. Everything was going great, we were loving to each other during school and we spent some time together on the weekends. But, things have been going downhill since a month ago. Her father is very ...

Would you forgive him and take him back?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

21 April 2009 (?) - I have a live-in boyfriend of three years. Here's my problem: I want to know if I can trust him today to be what he claims he is. But I don't trust him and wonder if I should give it a shot or walk. In the first 1.5 years, he hated my thr...

Should I wait a month and contact him?

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21 April 2009 (F) - Hi. I'm really confused. Heres the situation: Me and my ex-boyfriend dated for a little over a year. Then he said it was best we separated because he thought I may feel like I'm trapped and that I could find a man who is more deserrving. He also has ...

Do I have the right to know who else has been flaunting with my boyfriend?

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21 April 2009 (F) - Tonight my boyfriend says that another female has been flaunting herself to him and he "could" be interested. We have not been getting on that well recently and he says he loves me but things have changed. I wanted to know who it is but he said he ...