New here? Register in under one minute Already a member? Login

245057 questions, 1084625 answers

Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!

New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us . Articles . Sitemap

To browse questions by day in April, 2009, use the links below (in brackets, number of questions on that day in this category)

1 (29), 2 (37), 3 (25), 4 (40), 5 (31), 6 (49), 7 (65), 8 (50), 9 (44), 10 (49),
11 (45), 12 (39), 13 (53), 14 (56), 15 (43), 16 (43), 17 (61), 18 (30), 19 (45), 20 (59),
21 (48), 22 (40), 23 (26), 24 (23), 25 (37), 26 (45), 27 (34), 28 (29), 29 (54), 30 (36),

Archived questions from: 19 April, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

(More questions from April, 2009)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I think I'm in love with my "friend with benefits" and I'm so depressed...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I'm in a friends with benefits relationship with someone I dated for a few months. We see each about once a week to hang out and have sex. I've become secretly very attached to him. I can't eat, I can't sleep and I feel so sad most of the time ...

I can't avoid him, I can't have him and I can't let anybody have him other than me...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Dear agony aunt, I am 26 years old... and I can't think like it. My best friend is a guy(D). We love each other and it's quite deep and we are physically intimate. We can't marry cuz we both belong to different religions. So the heart of the ...

Opinions needed please... Should I just wait to see where things go? Or is this just a lost cause?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - There's this guy that I've known for around 2 months now. For around the first few weeks we got along reeeally good and flirted a lot. We have like exactly the same personality. Then for a few weeks after that he started distancing himself and not ...

Abusive boyfriend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Here I go again.. me and my abusive boyfriend of 4 years are done. I've given him opportunity's to change from being a cheater more than once and putting his hands on me.. the recent incident was Friday because he got upset for how I was speaking ...

How does a separation work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I want to ask my husband to move out. We have been having problems for a really long time, and I recently found out he went out of town with another women, and it seems like now would be a good time for him to leave. But how does it work? I'm a ...

I have a huge crush on my best friend's brother!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Hey, I have this huge problem. Let's cut to the chase - I have a huge crush on my best friend's brother. My best friend has an older brother and I've known him for so many years, and I've never ever thought about him in a personal kind of way. He ...

I'm very unhappy with my partner just now...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I'm in a relationship 10 years, things have changed an awful lot recently and I'm very unhappy with my partner. I'm afraid to break up with him in case he is 'the one' and I'm throwing it all away. Please don't tell me to try talk to him about it, ...

How do I get my parents to quit controlling me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5688 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - How do I get my parents to quit controlling me? Do not get me wrong, I do enjoy attending the Sunday school (I teach toddlers) and the worship service. But I hate going at night... it drives me crazy. I hate doing the same routine every Su...

I don't know what happened do you think he's just making excuses or did he mean what he said?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - There's this guy that I really like and I thought he liked me too but I don't know what happened. We've been really good friends for about five years; one day we were hanging out and we were kissing then all of a sudden he's pulling away, saying he ...

Do I sit this one out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Help. I do not know what to do. I am due to go on a day field trip. I am looking forward to it. Trouble is my ex is going to with his new girlfriend. I think I am ok with it and will ignore him but people have warned me it could be awkward, in fact ...

I'm feeling really stressed out at the moment...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm looking for any advice from anyone out there. I don't have a huge problem but I am really really really stressed out at the moment and I feel completely lost. I am almost finished my degree in college and I have exams in the next few weeks, ...

I just found out the man I've been seeing is married!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5698 days ago

19 April 2009 (?) - I cant believe im in this situation right now and im so hurt and upset and confused. can someone please tell me what do here?! Ive only ever had one boyfriend, we dated almost two years, he broke my heart and walked away. since the break up i work...

Why the sudden change, after 2 years together and almost planning a summer wedding?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5574 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - i've been engaged to a girl for almost 2 years now and we we're supposed to get married this summer... about a month ago she tells me she doesn't want to get married and that she's afraid it's not the right time. Later on she says she's afraid I'm ...

Is it necessary to set boundaries and categories for male friends?.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - My confidence has been in the toilet for like longer than I can remember and have ran from almost every relationship I have come across because I want to be settled in my own life and fairly happy before I enter into anything with anyone.....

This economy is putting a strain in my relationship with my parents and boyfriend. Help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - my life is so messed up i don't know where to start. I am 18 years old. I paid for my car but my parents refuse to put it in my phone. I'm not allowed to see my bf, the man I love, they don't like him just because, its tearing our relationship apar...

After 3 years together, do you think we are drifting apart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - I can't help deciding what to do. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, and over the last 3 months, things with us have not been great. we don't argue, but we don't talk either. I can't help but feel that we are driting apart. I went out...

Why don't boys reply to my texts?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5422 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...

He said it's just a bit of flirting. Should I continue with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - hi was just wondering if anyone could maybe help or if they have any suggestions i would be very grateful thanks. ok well what it is ive just recently started a new job and one of the guys who comes in has been flirting with me e.g winking smil...

We just broke up. She was my life! Help me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend just broke up. We are 15 people say thats too young but i dont think so. She said we are very different and she has exams soon and it will be too difficult. I dont know what to do, she was my life. ...

He never has time for me...Please help me!!

No replies yet: Be the first to answer!

19 April 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for 6months who has two kids. He works away most nights and could be away from week to week. We used to see each other everyday because we couldn't bare being apart and now I hardly see him I know it's because of his job ...

Should I call it quits or hang in there a little longer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I need some good advice! Ive been dating this guy for 4 months. The first 3 months were great! He text me all the time, called me, spent lots of time with me and the sex was great. But the last month his text and calls have been less and less...

He's not a good kisser

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month now and well when we make out he really doesnt know what to do.... and also thats all he really wants to do but hes not really good at it what should i do because i cant tell him that he does...

Longtime boyfriend doesn't propose

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I am together with my boyfriend for 6 years now. We live together for 5 years and we match well together. We have had hard times, but now we have grown together, have many things in common. The thing is that he claims he is "free bird", never had ...

I'm bi, but I'd like to try a relationship with a man without hurting him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - i consider myself bi, but like girls better. since 13 i thought i was gay, but part of me still like guys. but im ALWAYS mean towards guys im interested in. whenever im attracted to a guy, i'd be nice and sweet to him but when he falls for me i'd ...

Issues with sister..can anyone else relate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Hoping for some help here and thank those who reply. I am in my forties and am seven years older than my sister. I have an older brother and am the middle child. Long ago, I accepted the fact that my sister and I would probably never be friends. We ...

Senior problems regarding ejaculation!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I have just started a new relationship, we are both in our 60s. We are deeply in love and extremely passionate, however, he can't ejaculate. He is on mediction for hight blood pressure. So when we make love we just go on an on because nothing ...

I need your help and advice! How can I get out of this situation and resolve it peacefully?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - When I was at the supermarket in the queue a few days ago, an elderly lady pulled me up and said "We need to go somewhere to talk. It's some news about your son" I thought this was odd, but went anyway when I'd done my shopping. The woman told m...

He said, "I want to make love to you"

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - A few days ago, for the first time, I got naked with the guy who I was seeing. He got really horny and whispered, "I want to make love to you." I thought he was just horny so I didn't respond to it. 30 minutes later, he asked me if I wanted to make ...

Just as I finally get over him he starts talking to me again but he has a girlfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Last March my 2 year relationship ended by him. He broke my heart, he was seeing someone else. I found this really hard to deal with because this was my first proper relationship. I finally was nearly over it by October time. Then he all of a sudden ...

If I ship out I'm gonna lose her but if I stay I can't have her.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - I have a friend and she is great. She makes me happy just to be around her. She knows exactly how to make me smile. We work in the same store and she is a manager now and I'm a regular employee. She used to be a specialist wich means when the ...

I have a crush on my boyfriend's best friend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I've been dating my boyfriend for almost three years now, and I think I have been in love with his best friend for almost three years. It's so hard to explain, but I met his best friend a few months after my bf and I started dating and for some ...

How can I be with her in the position I'm in? We are really great friends and yet I'm in love.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - I have a friend she is great. She makes me happy just to be around her. Sshe knows exactly how to make me smile. We work in the same store and she is a manager now and I'm a regular employee. She used to be a specialist which means when the managers ...

Follow up: It's all so confusing for me part 2

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5700 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - This is a follow up to a question I put on here on the 17 April under the title. "It's all so confusing for me" http://www.dearcupid.org/question/its-all-so-confusing-for-me.html. Since the post I have made things worse I went and got drunk and ...

In love - long distance relationship she's not... maybe...???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (?) - When you're in love with someone and know they're not in love with you, what do you do then? I've fallen for her..(we are in a non commited long distance relationship). I fell in love with her over the years of knowing her but I know she is not ...

Love him, but it's against my faith

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship with a guy who is 5 years older than me for about a year. Due to our age difference we were never verbally intimate. We also indulged in sex about 5 months ago and since then whenever we are together alone we have ...

I told her how I felt, and she is shocked. Any advice?

No replies yet: Be the first to answer!

19 April 2009 (M) - I often go to the same region of Spain for holidays,i know people there,2 years ago i met an amazing English lady there, we embark on a mad 6 months relationship,it moved very fast,then suddenly without any warning she ended it,said it had no futu...

She is giving me mixed signals

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - I think I am getting mixed signals, or she is playing games with me. Well, there is a girl in my Clinical Psychology class who sits right next to me, she seems to give signs that she might be interested in me; such as she always leans in to whis...

Can sex with a younger man be a good experience?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I have been friends and seeing a younger man. We have a good time. I am considering the possibility of sex with him. Can sex with a man that is 10 to 15 years younger be a good idea? Can sex with a younger man be a good experience? What...

My new b/f is talking too seriously too quickly...how do I put a stop to this before I get too scared?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - I've been friends with this guy for almost three years and for most of the time I knew him he was pretty much only interested in hooking up with girls or having really short relationships that were based purely on sex and as his friend, and only his ...

I don't know if I love him, but I cant get over him.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago, because my family moved to QLD. After we broke up, my ex slept with a few girls, and messed with my head, and treated me horribly. A few weeks ago, I moved back to Adelaide, And I hate to admit it...

My g/f and I often broke up. Is it over this time?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - well my gf and i broke up....again and well she broke up with me like usual and i think were really over. and we broke up cause we fight to much and stuff and we break up a lot and she always comes back and i let her. but not this time shes h...

I don't want to choose sides so how do I handle this situation?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (M) - I have two sisters one is 18 and one is 17. Harley is a great sister and has a 4.0 in school and Brandi is an alright sister too because I never see her, she's never home and she's doing really bad in school. Brandi lies all the time to my parents ...

The sex is horrible - should I marry?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5682 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - dear cupid i have been with my bf/fiance for over a year now and the sex is horrible..we both know we have issues in that section but he always want to do it and i dont..today he wanted to do it and i said no..he like do you want me im like yes but ...

Kissing disaster

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5701 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - Okay well I've been thinking and I do love my boyfriend BUT... there's a problem - he has braces and in the next couple of months I'm getting braces too but I'm a little bit scared to kiss him just in case something goes wrong. Can we still kiss ...

Is it wrong that he constantly thinks about me being with women, or him being with other women and me at the same time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5702 days ago

19 April 2009 (F) - While my boyfriend and I were having sex one time, and I was on top, he said [Is it wrong that I can't wait to do this with another woman] Is there something wrong when you're with a guy for 2 and a half years and for the past 2 years, he's houn...