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writes:I broke up with my ex about a year and a half ago, and I hadn't seen him again until last week when we were both staying for the weekend with the same friend. I thought about him for a very long time after our break up and even though I think I'm fine now I was still nervous to see him and some of his behaviour confused me a bit! I just wondered if there's anything odd about it or if I was overthinking things because it was our first proper meeting!It was kind of awkward at first, I think there may have been a bit of mutual avoidance going on, but after that we talked fine and he asked me all about what I'm doing now, and he asked me how my mum and brother were (although he never met either of them). That was fine and normal, but then he kept teasing me like he used to, and reminding me of things we did together (literally testing me to see how much i remember about them). he also directed seemingly thoughtful questions at, asking how i slept and what i was like as achild.. and this might be just me, but i felt like he was drawing attention to really small details, like the fact that he knew i had a new phone now because when he noticed me on facebook chat there was a phone there instead of a green dot, and i seemed to make more spelling errors on facebook than normal!id probably think it was normal if it was just a friend, but since its him and i wondered about him for so long, i cant help but over think things! somebody set me straight please :)
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reader, Lani702  +, writes (7 June 2013):
 If he calls you to ask you out, then he's seriously re-thought the break up and wants to try again. But I doubt it. He hasn't done it in a year and a half, why would he do so now. It's not like he saw you and realized how beautiful you are. He sees your pictures on facebook all of the time. And for a whole year and a half he has chosen to stay broken up. The awful truth is, in my opinion, he was flirting with you, because he knows he can. There's nothing better to some people than someone you dumped who still has the hots for you. It boosts your ego. Don't boost his ego. Don't over think it, which you are doing. Don't rehash the entire weekend line by line and try to remember every detail of what he said and how he said it and the inflection in his voice at the time he said it. Do not go down that road again. You broke up because the relationship was broken. Why put yourself through that again. And for Heaven's sake, unfriend him. Now that you know he looks at your page or chat or whatever, you might want to obsess and post pictures and just generally start thinking about him again. He's not worth one more minute of your time. You've moved on, stay moved on.
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