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reader, Serpico  +, writes (21 February 2013):
Why do you need him to admit the "truth" if you already know it. If you know he's a cheater, thank your personal God you have that info and move on.
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reader, codyjanel +, writes (18 February 2013):
 Sweetie, He will never admit it... Time will reveal his secrets though. So get out of the relationship, be patient and begin looking for other options.
Don't wait around though. Be strong and make it known that you are finished with him and he really messed up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): It's over. Even if he didn't cheat...you don't trust him...and there is good reason for that even if you don't know it yet. But he did cheat. Don't waste any more of your heart on a person like that. If he really really loved and cared for you, he wouldn't do anything that might lose you. He isn't your true love. Go and wait for your true love to find you, he can't while you are wasting your heart and love on this man.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 February 2013):
 You say you got evidence but still you want him to confess...hummm I get the feeling your evidence was not conclusive enough to convince you and that's why you need him to admit he cheated. Am I close?
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reader, bronzed adonis  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 He`s a liar. Liars don`t tell the truth. If you don`t leave the odds are that he will see you as being very weak.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (18 February 2013):
 You ask: "How to i get him to tell the truth?"
I ask: "Why bother????"
Good luck...
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reader, lmao1989 +, writes (18 February 2013):
 You don't get him to tell the truth to you you've got video evidence. Leave it in his dvd player and leave a note saying picked this up hope you like it.... then BAM!!! it's over!!
No-one deserves to be cheated on especially when you've caught him out if you don't do something now whose to say he won't continue or has continued.
Put yourself first and go!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): You are probably hanging around and trying to get him to admit it because you dont want to leave. He knows that you know and he continues to lie. It doesnt get much more disrespectful than that. As you aint leaving, enjoy the ride. He is going to do it again and again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): "i got my evidence but he stil denies it. How to i get him to tell the truth?"You don't. You trust your own good judgment and common sense, act on the evidence you've obtained first-hand (he's a cheater and a liar), and walk away with self-respect, dignity and pride intact.Why aren't you so grievously insulted, offended and outraged that you haven't already dumped him in the wake of such callous and contemptuous treatment? Why is being proven right so important to you that you're willing to let this scumbag play you for an even bigger fool than he already has? He'll continue to deny everything, and if you do manage to badger a confession out of him then he'll probably throw it right back in your face by blaming you for driving him into the arms of another woman due to your endless nagging and suspicion. And as iAmHereToHelpYou said, what will that change? Nothing.I'm sorry, but you need to stop thinking with your ego, vanity and hormones, and start thinking with your brain or else he will continue to treat you like dirt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): First off I am sorry you are going through this. That is an awful predicament and it is a shame he doesn't see how wonderful you are. More importantly, though, do you see it? If you knew your value you wouldn't be so concerned with an admission from him. You got your proof, didn't you? He doesn't want to admit it. You can't force it out of him. But you KNOW. So now what?
He didn't respect you enough to be faithful. He doesn't respect you enough to come clean. It is time to rebuild your life, hopefully for your benefit, without him. The most valuable information you need to know right now is that you are better off on your own. Don't lose focus.
Good luck.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 February 2013):
What do you need a confession for? You already know he cheated. If you don't leave him you're condoning the behavior and it'll happen again.
If you have a guy denying undeniable proof that he's cheated it shows a huge character flaw on top of the cheating.
LEAVE or accept it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): he won't admit it... don't wait on him... basically slap him and tell him to piss off... and leave him for good.
if he respected you he would have admitted it . if nothing else...
its just a lot of heart ache but you have to realize this... he disrespected you...
possibly cos he doesn't love you...
just maintain boundaries... and do not accept this behavior
immediately do everything to make sure it is clear that you have been hurt and you are the victim... like moving out...
or he will not hesitate to say... you didn't have a problem with it before...
speaking from experience...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): Personally I would email him a copy of the evidence with a message saying 'it's over'. If you do want to confront him though then show him the evidence and see how he reacts. Its up to you but I the fact he has cheated and lied would be enough for me to leave and never look back. All the best.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 Iamheretohelpu nailed it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): Show him the evidence and see what he says. I agree that you should leave him either way though. Not only is he cheating on you but he is lying to your face about it which is not on. Won't you struggle to trust him in the future now? I would.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (18 February 2013):
Tell him you have evidence and you just want him to admit it.Then you will have to make a decision to either forgive him or finish with him or take time out .Best Luck. Nora B.
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