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writes:Hello.I told my partner a lie and now its come back to haunt. I basically I told that I did not slept with the gu y when I di He said he believes me . The guy said he's going to tell him. Am really scared that I might lost him. Should I tell him the true or keep denying ..it. I really. Love him. I see my one chance of happiness slipping away Reply to this Question
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reader, BeeHappi +, writes (19 February 2013):
BeeHappi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGhosh! It seems really bad hearing from you all
My bf really trust me. I feel am going to break is heart.
I can't sleep. It is my word against this other guy. I dont know how to tell him. Every day he tells me how much he loves me. He's booked a romantic weekend away. I think he's going to propose to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): This lie is poison. Only the truth will set you free. Arrange to see you boyfriend and calmly and lovingly tell him the truth. Tell him you are ashamed for lying and promise to always tell the truth, not matter how hard.
If he breaks up with you, so be it. Learn from it!! If he loves you madly, he won't. You have made the lie become honesty if you tell him, and he may learn to forgive you and trust you. You must NEVER lie to him again. No matter what!!! So, don't do anything you would have to lie about and life will be easier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): I didn't tell my bf about an ex... and he basically changed... and dumped me... ahahahahah you get me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): I agree, if you keep this from him and don't face up to the consequences, you won't learn from this sort of thing. All you will learn is that you can cheat and carry on with your life and not feel guilty about it. Then you are likely to continue cheating because you can get the pleasure you want elsewhere, but the security you want at home with your boyfriend. Not just that, but in general, not having secrets won't lead to worry about anything being exposed.
If you love your boyfriend as you say you do, don't protect him with a lie, have the respect to come out and be honest with him. He's been cheated, don't you think he deserves to know so he can decide for himself if he wants to risk being with a cheat or not?
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): Actually, I hope that he tells him You won't learn your lesson otherwise. I'm going through the exact situation with my gf. I suspect she's cheating because there's rumors flying around about her and another guy hooking up last weekend. She denied everything.
She could easily be you right now. You need to learn cheating has consequences. If you lose him then you take that lesson and apply it to the next relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): Was you with your partner when you slept with this other guy? If not, then it`s nothing to do with your partner. If you was then you have cheated and he should know the truth about you.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 Need a bit more info... Why is the guy you slept with threatening to tell your bf?
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