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writes:I just recently moved to a new town. It's a little beach town, and in the summer I know it will be easy to make friends but being winter, it's pretty dead. Im currently between jobs so the only people I'm around are those in my community college classes. Most of them I have no interest in being friends with (sorry if that sounds judgmental but trust me on this one). However, there is a very cute boy in one of my classes. The class is only once a week so I have limited chances of talking to him. Im really very shy but I also know I need to start meeting people, I am tired of being alone all the time. A guy in my class asked for my number but he really gave me the creeps (and is a jerk in class) so I'm not trying to pursue that. This other boy though, he seems quiet too, and nice. I'm wondering how I can go about talking to him? Talking about class is kind of an option, but I'm looking more to say something like "I just moved here", but I dont know how to follow up after that. "I just moved here, where is the best...?" Something like that? I'm honestly racking my brain, but I just cannot think of anything. I'm not sure, I have never just gone up to a stranger and went on to become friends. I dont want to seem too forward either.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 February 2013):
 I wouldn't normally suggest this.... but, in your case, I'm willing to make say, "what the heck????" Here's the suggestion (and it's quite novel and creative!!).....
Print out a copy of this submittal. Have it with you in your purse or pocket.... Wait for a chance to encounter this shy guy, one-on-one. Get his attention and say to him.... "I have something to show you...." and hand him your copy of this submittal..... Tell him that HE is the shy guy who has caught your eye... (sorry for the silly poetics!!!!)..... and see how he reacts.
If I'm any judge of people, he is going to be flattered... and your doing as I've suggested will be the beginning of a VERY rewarding arrangement/relationship for the two of you....
Why not do so? IF you DON'T (try it) you could go to your grave wondering if he fancied you.
The WORST that could happen is that he says, "Nice try, lady... but I ain't much interested in you...."
I like the odds....
Good luck...
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (20 February 2013):
You sound a very nice person and your idea of starting the chat with this boy is excellent. Dont worry about the follow up because he will have to answer you and then you can take from there.Just be cheerful and happy and give it a little time and im sure you will makes lots of friends .Best Luck Nora B.
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