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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:We've only been together for 2 months, I know it's really short but we like each other so much. Me and my boyfriend were completely fine, then all of a sudden our conversations have gotten shorter and shorter, then finally I asked him whats going on. I asked him if he still likes me and his response was 'ofcourse I do'. Then he later on said that it feels more of a friendship rather than a relationship because we haven't spent that much that much time together, he says I love spending time with my friends more and that he thinks that I think he's a shit boyfriend. I apologized to him countless times and called him but he hasn't answered nor has he replied to my texts, We haven't spoken for 3 days now and I've told him that I wanna work on our relationship and I don't want it to end, but I don't know if we're over now since he hasn't said anything?
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 You know, he was probably trying to get out of this relationship but wanted to make it seem like it was solely your fault. So you may have been spending more time with your friends than with him (honestly, I think that is OK when you're just two months into a relationship) but if he was truly unhappy about it, he should have spoken up. The fact that he spoke up about it and used it as an excuse to not contact you for days (effectively a breakup) just shows that he can't take blame. He should have told you he wasn't happy so that you both could have decided to spend more time together. Instead, he just walks out.Also, it isn't his job to THINK he knows what YOU think without actually asking you first. How would he know you think he's a shit boyfriend unless you told him? It sounds like he's putting words in your mouth, making you feel guilty for something that he fabricated. That's my take on the situation. I wouldn't want a boyfriend who can't accept that he is also at fault, otherwise the whole relationship will be about how right he is and how wrong you are.Now you can try to contact him but you must explain to him that if he has a problem, he should be more mature about it and talk to you first instead of throwing it in your face and walking off because really, how can you fix a problem if he doesn't even give you a chance to?
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (18 February 2013):
It's either over or he suffers from some self esteem issues or something of that nature.
Don't be a doormat trying to get him back, it'll only make things worse. The best thing you can do right now is leave the ball in his court. Let him contact you. If you continue to bug him for answers you'll just push him away.
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