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anonymous
writes:Hi, everyone. I asked a question before about an affair that ended very badly and painfully (which you can see here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/an-affair-that-i-never-wanted-to-begin.html). Since this happened, the man in question made a pretty impassioned plea for me back, then spent the next two weeks changing his mind and going back and forth until I finally cut him off and ended contact. We unfortunately still have to see each other (we're both in a graduate school program together), but I refuse to speak with him in person. This does not mean he hasn't tried, however. Since I won't speak to him, he has taken to trying to contact my friends. He even texted a friend of mine today asking her to meet him for coffee so that she would intercede on his behalf. I am legitimately uncomfortable with his behavior. I don't, however, want to contact him. I am hoping he will just get the message by my ignoring him. Am I doing the right thing? My friend obviously refused the request. What is he up to? Why can't he just leave me alone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): Hi, I would threaten to expose him to his wife because after how badly he treated you, he thinks its okay to stalk you and your friends.
He cannot be trusted, he used and disposed of you , with no thought to the pain he inflicted on you. Dont put yourself through this again as he is trying to wear you down. I would tell him to go to hell as he is not worth it, you are doing the right thing, once bitten twice shy.
What ever you do, and no matter how much he begs, dont go back, if you even consider it, think about how he broke your heart, those tears that you wasted and the pain, that should stop in your tracks from going back to this mad married man.
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