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writes:Just a quick question- I have a boyfriend, we have been going out for about 4 months and for the most part, everything is great. We're always spending time together, spending the night together and spending time with each others families, seeing each other 3-4 times a week.Today I was on facebook and it came up on my newsfeed that my boyfriend had liked a status of someone that said "I love having no commitments to anyone". Surely, being in a relationship is a commitment? He introduces me as his girlfriend to everyone and we are facebook official! How can my boyfriend believe he has no commitments to anyone? I know it sounds kinda stupid cause it's just something I've seen on facebook so I don't want to ask him about it. I'm just worried that this maybe means he's not as serious about our relationship as I thought.Opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni'd just like to let everyone know that we broke up a week later with him saying he was unable to give me the commitment i wanted....
trusting my instinct from now on :/
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 May 2012):
 I think the "like" button on facebook should be deleted... this is getting ridiculous.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (14 May 2012):
What you describe is a very committed man, whose actions suggest that he has no commitment issues whatsoever. There could be all kinds of reasons why he liked this person’s comment: maybe that friend had just emerged from a difficult relationship, maybe it’s an insiders joke, maybe he liked this person’s confidence to express their views. Heaven knows! But really, we’re talking about clicking a button on a web site. If you try to read his emotions by what buttons he pressed on a computer screen, you’re going to end up a nervous wreck! I think people get far too worked up about Facebook. Form your judgement on the basis of how he behaves within this relationship: you spend time together, you visit his family and he yours, and he tells everyone you’re his girlfriend. That rather speaks for itself, I would say.I wish you all the very best.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (14 May 2012):
 Well I would read this differently - if this friend that he liked the status of is recently single, then he/she may have posted the comment "I love having no commitments to anyone" because they are much happier now they are single. So your boyfriend will 'like' their status because he knew his friend was unhappy, and now he/she is happier your boyfriend likes this.
I dont think it means that your boyfriend doesnt want any commitments, I simply think it means he likes his friend's new happy attitude - perhaps because this friend was unhappy in a relationship in the past.
There is a lesson you need to learn - DONT PAY ANY ATTENTION TO FACEBOOK. It ruins so many relationships, and so many people become paranoid because of stupid things like facebook statuses. At the end of the day if you are in a relationship with your boyfriend, if you are happy and he is not hiding you from his friends & family then there is nothing wrong. One comment on facebook is no reason to start conjuring up bizzare stories in your head.
Judge your relationship on how your boyfriend beahves around you, when you are face to face so you can read body language etc. Dont judge any part of your relationship because of something you've seen online, you dont know any of the context behind it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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