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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have conflicting feelings about my boyfriend. We are both 17 and I am his first girlfriend but he isn't my first boyfriend. I have always been faithful but in my first relationship where I thought I was in "love" he betrayed me told my secrets out to everyone, prank called my house harassing me, spread rummors about me etc. They were mostly lies and he has now even been charged from hitting one of his recent ex's and I believe he is insane. That caused me alot of trust issues seeing I was devoting myself into him which was a mistake and I would take verbal abuse constantly. It doesn't help that I have issues with my dad disappearing from time to time in my life. So for a while I was a bitch to guys when they were even interested, I would shut everyone down trying to protect myself. So after that phase I started to just have fun and not be serious.When I found my recent bf I knew he was perfect for me. I knew him for prolly a few months to a yr I thought he was cute but didn't think he liked me so I let it go and after we started going out I found out he thought I was cute too ! Lol anyways, I always think he's going to cheat or leave me for someone better even though he doesn't flirt, treats me like a queen, sometimes he can glance at girls and I literally mean GLANCE and I take everything put of proportion. He even let's me openly see his phone. I just feel like I'm not being fair to him and at the begining of the relationship he was insecure but now it's me. And I get jealous too easy. And he stays with me he says he loves me and there are personally issues that I deal with and he has stood by my side. I felt like he has made me a better person and he encourages me doing good in life and I do the same for him . I have stopped mentioning my jealousy but how do I get rid of this feeling? This feeling that I'm not worth him and that my fate will always be with a terrible verbally abusive man.I just don't want to loose someone who is one of a kind bc of my insecurities.
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reader, confusion999 +, writes (14 May 2012):
He's with you because he loves you also. If he didn't want to be with you he would leave. If he lets you look at his phone, he isn't hiding anything. It might take you some time but you need to realize he is genuine and you have a good guy. Talk to him and tell you how you feel. Talking openly will help you feel better about your insecurities.
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