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writes:Has anyone ever experienced an attraction to another person that has gone on for years, and no matter how hard you try, the chemistry between you and this person never goes away.So here's my crushing issue...without giving too many details...I met this guy about 5 years ago as a frequent customer to where he works. I first thought he was really cute. He wasn't really my type, but still very attractive and charismatic. I thought nothing of it in the beginning, since, in my Sagittarian way, I tend to grow small innocent crushes on people I meet. A year or so went by, there was a casual sweet friendliness between us. It was nice..and I made sure I always looked ok, makeup and all whenever I was stopping by his workplace. Then, one night I ran into him at the grocery store..said hi, learned his name, flirted a bit, but pursued nothing more, since I was in a relationship with someone else.After that meeting though..and with his name in hand, I started thinking about him more and more. I looked him up online (don't make fun, many of us do this lol). Found some random information like links to his parents, his work and his birthday...he's a Leo, go figure hmm lol...and next..sadly found engagement pictures he took recently with his fiance. Not like I was free to pursue him, but any hopes were gone. I tried my best to put him out of my head. Slowly I avoided his workplace.Yet still, over the last 4 years, randomly I would run into him. Not always face to face, sometimes just driving we would see each other. Other times it was at clothing stores, downtown on the street, fishing ponds, the gas station. It was bizarre, and somewhat frustrating, because those chance meetings made it hard for me to forget about him. The worst run-in came a year and a half ago. Let me say first that in the 4 years, he did end up marrying the girl in the pictures and had 2 children. I also had a child. So of course, out of like 20 preschools in town, his son went to the same one as my daughter, different classes however, thank goodness. So the worst run-in was at a performance night at this preschool, when we both realized the coincidence. After the performance, he walked across the room without his wife or kids, approaching as only a Leo would. Our words were brief, but mutual sexual tension between us, very high, so much that my husband even noticed and was extremely unhappy about it. So in the last year, while I've been distracted by my own unrelated relationship issues and emotional stress, I started stopping by his workplace occasionally. I found myself still feeling nervous around him sometimes, but not so affected like I was years before. We would chat about our kids etc., but it was only friendly small talk, nothing more. Then, a few months ago, as I'm starting to feel happier, more balanced in my life and relationship, things began to change. I started to talk to him more, think about him more, research him more..lol, until it got to the point where I felt so nervous around him, that I wanted to once again avoid his workplace. I felt so completely ridiculous about it. After discussing the subject with my therapist, I avoided this guy for a few weeks as i gained some better perspective on the topic. I've only just started going back to where he works, blocking any conversation with him other than "hey" and "thank you". It's been awkward, but at least appropriate, and aside from writing this question tonight, I no longer obsessively think of him.So, I'm not looking for advice on how to handle this situation. I'm sure many of you reading will have plenty to say (advice and criticisms) to a married woman who is attracted to another married person. To those of you looking to rant...please find some other poor soul to destroy. I have a therapist and have spent countless hours mulling over how to handle this and...criticizing myself for my feelings about this guy already, so, thank you and goodbye.What i really want is to know is this...has anyone ever been in a slightly similar situation? Where you found yourself so drawn to another person, and no matter how many times you tried to convince yourself that "they're not your type" or "it's just a crush, I'll get over it", you still can't deny the ongoing chemistry or "heat" with this person? I mean, over 5 years of this, how much chemistry that's transferred between us...its crazy. I've never experienced anything like it before. Can anyone help explain this?The funny thing is, he is a Leo Rat, and I am a Sagittarian Dragon..which is an extremely perfect match, both sun and Chinese signs. So if you know about the zodiac, compatibility...please comment!Thank you :)
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reader, Beefcake6629 +, writes (17 September 2012):
I am a leo rat to so i am on your level. I know exactly what you are saying. I am in a bridge in life and i have found a young beautiful sagittarios horse no kids and she is pretty
black complexion. I fell in love with her day 1
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reader, Missunderstood76 +, writes (17 May 2012):
Missunderstood76 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much for your responses! It's nice to know others can understand what I've been going through with this Leo. It's true that I like to figure things out...and its perplexed me for 5 years...I don't think ill ever let it go until I know. Honestly, sometimes I wish something would just happen! Thanks again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2012): I am in the same situation. One minute I am doing everything I can to avoid this man and 15 minutes later....I can't stop thinking about him.
He is an Aquarius, and I am Taurus. Not compatible what-so-ever I don't believe. But the chemistry is there, it is pretty noticeable when we are around each other.
I can't explain it, don't know how to make it stop. The more I try to make it stop the worse it gets. I hope someone can explain it... good luck :)
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reader, lover06 +, writes (14 May 2012):
I think there is a very good reason you feel what you feel towards this person and been a dragon you will not settle till you find that reason. Not so sure about sagittarius gragon but all have some traits of the dragon. I am a gemini fire dragon. I just go for it and find out coz i know i will not settle down with just any answers.So you should find that reason it will not go away, every time you see him you'll have that same feeling all over again. dragons dont rest till they find the true answer no matter what it is . that's why you here right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2012): Yes I have been in a slightly similar situation as yours. There is a man who I have experienced this with. We are both saggitarius, we have an undeniable connection and obvious attraction to one another. All logic says that there is no point to it as there are circumstances that prevent us from being anything more even though we are both single. However, the attraction and connection is so strong. I have done everything even stopping all contact with him for a number of years, although one day by pure coincidence he popped back into my life and the connection and attraction is still as strong and powerful as ever. I have experienced it though, and it can be frustrating and intoxicating at times. As you know Saggitarians are very well matched also.
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