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writes:(Mod note: two questions from same user about the same people combined.)So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1month. 2 months January 25TH. But there is a bit of an issue. me and him didn't talk for a week before our first month together. and in that week i was always hanging out with my best friend. so while me and my best friend were playing around we held hands. someone told my boyfriend yesterday and he was very very mad. he thought i was as he said fucking around? but me and my best friend have no feelings t words each other. i told my boyfriend that and he said OK. but i still feel like hes mad at me for it.----second question: ------hi people. i need major help here. okay so i've been seeing this guy for 1month bout to be 2 months January 26Th. me and him love each other very much. but there is one problem. OK so i have a best best friend who is my ex boyfriend. i have known him since Pre-K. we grew up together and everything. we dated for about a year on and off. truth is we were never really a good couple. even though people thought we were perfect my feelings for him weren't there. so after me and him broke up my current boyfriend asked me out. i said yes and when i told my ex/best best friend he freaked out. he got upset and said he wanted to cut himself. he never did though. but thats not my point. my point would be that now whenever me and my best best friend hang out and my current boyfriend text's me my best best friend/ex rolls his eyes and says wow he has to keep track of you? hes annoying! when really me and my boyfriend rarely text in front of my ex/best best friend. my boyfriend doesn't know whats going on but i just tell him that me and him shouldn't text alot. so he agreed. (even though he was upset) but yeah. me and my ex/best best friend were hanging out last night at the park just sitting on the swings. than my boyfriend called and my ex/best best friend snatched my phone and went off on my boyfriend. he was yelling 'how dare you take her!! whats your problem!! than he continued to curse. so i toke my phone and my boyfriend came to pick me up. my boyfriend went up to my ex/best best friend and told he why he was saying all that he did on the phone? and my ex/best best friend rolled his eyes and said oh the truth you mean? my boyfriend than said well shes my girlfriend. don't try anything with he please. and my ex/best best friend said whatever! an than he walked away. i'm worried about him. i think his anger is getting bigger and bigger. he is only truly smiling when we are alone but he needs to realize i have a boyfriend and i'm not the little girl down the block that can hang out with and kiss everyday. my boyfriend questions me allot like how i'm still friends with him. and i just say because i have known him to long. and my boyfriend just says OK. but should i tell me ex/best best friend that his anger is out of control? and should i tell my boyfriend everything that happened with me and my ex/best best friend?
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reader, BMWdrew21 +, writes (18 January 2012):
You are hurting the guy you are currently with, and the "best friend" who likes you. If you loved your boyfriend, you would do what is right and stop being so close with the "best friend". This situation will only hurt worse if you let it progress. You obviously have feelings for your best friend, and are kind of leading him on by not being clear about it if you do or if you don't. I know attention is nice, but think about the guys involved.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 January 2012):
 I understand you want him as a friend, but you both dated so it can't be just simple to go back to friendship, this is just going to hurt him to much because he has not let go off you, he looks at you as more than a friend, so it is not fair on him, he cannot deal with friendship at the moment, he might not know that but it is true the friendship is hurting him more, you need to let go for his sake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni dont want to end this friendship though. i care about him as a good friend and i want to let him move on. so i have distanced myself a bit.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (16 January 2012):
Yes it is always best to be honest with your boyfriend so just tell him the truth before he finds out from someone else. Also when it comes to your ex you need to start standing up for yourself and make it clear that he cannot behave like this, to be honest it sounds to me like he is not over you, so I think you need to distance yourself from him for a while until he can move on from you and accept that you are with someone else now, the more you hang out with him the more you will be hurting him. You need to make it clear to him that his behaviour was unacceptable and he cannot do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2012): Honey, you two are NOT friends anymore. He obviously loves you very very much and the only reason he hangs out with you is because he wants to get back together as a couple hence why he blows his top when your boyfriend texts or calls. You need to end this 'friendship'. I can't believe you don't see it.
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