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writes:I was really taken back by my wife's comment. We were getting ready to go somewhere, I asked what she was going to wear. She said jeans and asked me "are you going to wear a dress?"I was puzzled, and still am. The thing is I have NEVER worn ANYTHING female or feminine. I am completely the opposite. To get a bit deeper. My wife liked those that did not treat her well. You know, like some women like a** Ho*es. I have always been good to her and I think she may think less of me because of this.I am actually very masculine but she often will make comments about liking guys with traits that few men have. Like 6'5" pro linebacker traits. So what do you make of her comment? I somehow think she is someone few men will ever make happy. Or am I making too much of the comment? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 January 2012):
 I believe it's a sad attempt at humor. "I'll wear the pants, you wear the dress! Hhahahaha". Not really funny though.
IMO, she wasn't trying to call you feminine. Ask her what she meant, I'm sure it was a joke.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2012): I think she assumed from your question that you wanted her to dress more feminine and was either going to think less of her for wearing jeans or say something to her about it. So she got there first with her comment as a form of defence.
She snapped at you because she probably just wanted to be comfy instead of a walking sex object. She said what she did to point out either you hadn't dressed up much for the evening either so why should she be expected to. Or to point out that not everyone likes wearing a dress all the time and she wasn't in the mood.
Yes you're over-thinking this, it's not a big deal and I seriously don't think she actually wanted you to wear a dress.....
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (16 January 2012):
She probably did not want you asking if she was wearing a dress so beat you to the punch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2012): How long were you married for? How long did you know wife? Is this behaviour or comments 'new'? How has your marriage been otherwise?
I am going to say you know your Wife, your Life/Marriage better than I do and so you must be going on a gut instinct.
Has she always said such comments?
More info please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2012): I think she was just being snappy because she was trying to get ready and it was like you were criticising her for wearing jeans or whatever. Don't harrass ladies when they are getting ready, its a dangerous thing to do.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 January 2012):
 Whoa I think she was probably just trying to be funny, as in it's so obvious you're NOT wearing a dress. Unless something has happened recently that would indicate you like wearing dresses, I don't think she meant anything at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2012): I think maybe this was just a mis-tatement, maybe she was thinking of herself when she said that? You need to ask her.
As for the type of man she likes that is variable for everyone- I'm not attracted to large, overly muscular men at all, but I do like tall men. I presume she likes you since she is with you?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 January 2012):
 oh wow... i think you are going to have to ask her.. if she was like me, it probably meant nothing...
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