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writes:Hi I need advice on 2 questions. I am due to be married in 6 weeks time I have 2 children from a previous relationship, a boy 18 and a daughter 12. My boyfriend is going on his stags to in a few days and there are 8 of them going 2 of those are my son and my brother in law, I dont particularly mind if my bf goes to see strippers I just dont want him to bring my son, I dont want my son to be exposed to this at his age nor do i wish to let him see his future step dad getting a lap dance, am I being unreasonable? my partner said what is he supposed to do if all the other lads want to go in? My second question is that I am also going on a hens soon and we are all due to go see strippers, I personally think that male strippers are different to female ones, I feel female strippers are of purely sexual nature and male ones are more for entertainment, bit like a drag show, I have never been turned on by a male stripper, I have laughed alright but not turned on. Am I right about the differences between male/female strippers?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCheers for your answers, I will take them on board and ill have a heart to heart with my son x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): I am a reader from the middle east. strip clubs are not common in our parts and if there is one normally it is for female strippers and the show is not as explicit as it is in europe or america.I really can't fathom why should one go to one of these on the eve of their marriage.our way of celebrating in such events is diffrent. I think you are quite right for being apprehensive of taking your 18 yr old son to such a joint by his future step father and I would think he would also feel awkward to go.but I don't think you should give it much thought if they do go. I wouldn't like to spend my wedding eve in such place. but then that is a matter of choice. happy marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): To be perfectly honest, I think the whole stripper tradition before marriage is completely stupid and an invitation for trouble. Why would anyone invite temptation into their relationship by getting sexually turned on by other women when they're about to be tied down to one until they literally die?It makes no sense. I dont see a problem with men going to see strippers if they so choose, but if a man hasnt finished having his "bit of fun" exploring the ladies yet, then he shouldnt be getting married. He should wait till he is ready to commit himself. The fact that women have been dragged into this tradition as well is even stranger. I dont see much difference in either. You are both going to strip clubs, and you are right, introducing that to your son at this time isnt appropriate. Perhaps there is a friend he could hang out with during that time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): I've never been to a strip club but I disagree. I think both male and female strippers are sexual entertainment. However, I think it depends on the person watching the stripper. Women may not be turned on necessarily, but I know a lot are. Men, though, I think they are always turned on. That's why strippers were invented, so men can look at naked women and have them rub all over them.
As for your son, I agree it would be disturbing personally. I wouldn't want to watch my step-mother getting turned on by a male stripper waving his man parts in her face..... yuck! But for some men it is a right of passage. I think this depends more on your son's attitude. Have you spoken to him about it?
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