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writes:I am a 59-year-old-widow. Due to an illness my husband and I did not have intercourse for the last 15 years of our marriage (no masterbation during that time . realy need something now) .After my husband's death, a woman in my neighborhood who was moving gave me a vibrator. She described how well it satisfied her better than anything else every time she used it.I was able to achieve 2 orgams with this vibrator quickly and strongest ones of my life but my clit was not completly satisfied wanted to go on .i think i get too sensitive to go on and finish . is my vibrator too intense? I really would like that "I've been done" feeling . i want this badly .im not going with a man for some time.... i need a kind lady who knows a lot about this to help. no crack pots please. i also heard a woman can get hooked is this even possible. thanks
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 September 2011):
 The "Im done" feeling is more something you achieve only with a real life penis attached to a man. You don't get that feeling with a vibrator, and the closest I've ever gotten is if I take small breaks every now and then to not climax fast, and use my fingers at the same time/insert a dildo at the same time as using the vibrator.
But nothing compares to a real fuck. Pardon the language.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (16 September 2011):
 Understand that what works for one woman, won't work for all of them. Get creative. Buy a new vibrator every once in a while to shake things up. Try using the vibrator through clothing - try changing positions… Let your imagination fill you with new fantasies… Tease yourself, prolonging the orgasm sometimes… Try a dildo (non-vibrating) and use a gentler vibrator on your clitoris.
What works for you one week may get boring the next... so keep trying new things. Pay attention to the other parts of your body that seem to awaken while you masturbate.
I don't know anyone who is addicted to a vibrator and if you can go without sex for 15 years, I highly doubt you will become so. Just relax a bit. You haven’t tried to please yourself for 15 years and you need to get back in touch with what you like…
Not every orgasm will be as fantastic as ones you’ve had before. Not every cup of coffee tastes as good as others you’ve had, even though you made it the same way. You are not doing anything wrong and you are in no danger of doing anything harmful, so lighten up on yourself.
Good luck and enjoy!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (16 September 2011):
 You can desensitize yourself a bit to "normal" stimulation if you overuse it, but all it takes is a week or two of cold turkey no vibrator to regain it. If this one feels too strong, buy yourself a different one.
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