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writes:I'm very angry at a friend for telling everyone her daughter is my child. This woman and her husband were close friends of my X wife and I years ago. The girl does resemble me, but I never had any kind of sex with this woman. Now half the town is believing that this is my daughter, and while some find it humorous, some find it quite vile believing it. The woman is absolutly beautiful, a real trophy wife. I get asked by some how I got her into bed or am told how lucky I was getting her. When I try to explain the girl isn't mine and that I never had sex with this woman, it seems like they don't believe me because the girl resembles me. Now her husband is questioning whether the child is his. His additude toward me has changed because I believe he thinks I was sleeping with his wife. I have put a great deal of distance between us and do not consider them friends , her for saying that it's my child and him for thinking I'd sleep with his wife. Should I demand a paternity test to clear this up? We all live in a small town where everyone knows everyone. This had a bad effect on me. I tried to date a woman in town who now thinks I'm a pig because of this and won't even consider dating me. I'm so mad about this and want to sue them all. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Well looks like you can sue. Hey, I'm no lawyer.
I suppose it is hard for me to understand the need to sue for slander, since I'm from a bigger town and false rumors that are spread by people who nothing better to do with their time, don't bother me. Also for the women that choose to believe rumors with no physical evidence to back it up, you're better off without them anyway.
Still curious as to why your ex wife's friend would go to the trouble to tarnish your reputation. What did you do to her?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (17 September 2011):
 A damaged reputation is reason enough to pursue legal action. I wouldn't let this go. Speak to a lawyer.
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reader, Odds +, writes (17 September 2011):
 This is slander, possibly libel if she's been posting it on Facebook. Talk to a lawyer about getting an injunction, and possibly damages. I'm not a lawyer myself, but my understanding is you can't get a DNA test without her permission, which she is unlikely to grant.
If you can, ask the husband privately if he's tested the kids, and tell him the truth, that you've never slept with her.
Reputations matter, especially in small towns. Talk to a lawyer.
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (17 September 2011):
"What would you sue for? The only thing that is getting damaged is your reputation."
exactly - and since the damage is coming from a fictitious source, that's called libel.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 September 2011):
What would you sue for? The only thing that is getting damaged is your reputation.
I believe you should speak with her husband on asking his wife to submit the child to DNA testing. Since he's questioning the child, and you haven't touched his wife with a 10ft pole, it's best to end this rumor. Now, if she declines a DNA test then you have your proof.
I wonder why she's spreading these malicious lies about you?
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reader, scrdofyou +, writes (16 September 2011):
 You can go to the courts and insist you are the father. Whether she likes it or denies it then, is beside the point, say you wanted rights or something the REAL father would want, the court WILL make her agree to a paternity test. And you can sue im pretty sure, this is kinda like slander.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 September 2011):
To be honest, I'd also want to sue. You may actually have a case here. If I were you, I'd speak to a lawyer and see where you stand. You can't legally demand her to give a DNA test to clear this up, but you might be able to sue for something.
Get legal advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): Yes, you should have a paternity test. Demand it. Who knows what this woman is planning. She is disrespecting not only you and her husband but her daughter and the whole town! Get the proof of paternity and it instantly goes away. Then everyone will look at this woman and see the truth of what she is, which is necessary.
If I was her husband, I would demand a test, too. "He said, she said" is no way to solve something that can be proven with just a little spit or blood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): I need more explanation. Why would the woman lie about this? It seems very odd to me that she would put her own marriage in danger by telling everyone that some other man fathered her child.
Has she been secretly in love with you all these years? Did you ever flirt with her? There has to be a reason she is lying about this. Why is she trying to ruin you?
I would absolutely get a paternity test, and make sure to broadcast those negative results loud and clear.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 September 2011):
 Calm down!!!!! If you didn't do nik-nik with this woman, then this girl isn't your daughter. What more do you need THAN THE TRUTH (which YOU know)!?!??!?!?!??!?!
Sc**w anybody who thinks differently.....
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