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writes:I have had it out with the 'ex' tonight about keeping in contact!He dumped me for not very understanble reasons! But said he didn't want to lose me completely etc...,I gave him EVERY opportunity to just end contact now, (in my text) said If he doesn't want to keep in touch, no hard feelings etc, I will delete his number, wish him well with life etc etc, and if he does to put some 'f'in' effort in to it!!And he said he does, he's sorry for not keeping in touch with me.Just wondered what you aunts/uncles make of it? I accept we will not get back together by the way (but don't understand exs saying we'll stay in touch if they don't mean it. I am a very 'black n white' 'straight to the point person' and take people at their word (as I am of my word!) Thanks for any replies received! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOn the off chance I'll have sex with him..? Over my dead body!NEVER is the answer to that question!!! (If I ain't good enough to be his girlfriend, he ain't good enough to s*ag me)!!!I have actually posted a follow up to this question today. I thought we had sucessfully moved to being friends, (which I was more than happy with) but there you go, another spanner in the works to that too!I just take people at their word, if you say you will keep in touch, then I assume you will as friends (otherwise why say it?) I don't do bullshit and lies, I speak as I find, and mean what I say and (stupidly I guess) expect others to be the same!! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2011): I am pretty certain he keeps in touch when he feels like it on the off chance you'll have sex with him. He's thinking you like him so much that you'll let him get away with that even though you're broken up. Then you can't be mad because he's technically single and not a jerk. He thinks you'll just be so glad to see him you'll do just about anything. To be honest, you are giving him that impression getting worked up over how much he contacts you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFurther update and new problem! He has made much more of an effort to be in touch, we were getting along fine as friends, this last week we have texted as friends every day.He has a told me he has not slept with anyone since me nor snogged anyone (but had a 'peck' with a 'friend)All good. He says in a text 3 days ago there's been no-one since me, he told me he wanted to be single and that's what he's done...We agree to become facebook friends again,(I deleted him a month or so after we split up)that's fine. I look at his wall and see on 23rd sept, that he is 'no longer in a relationship' wtf? Also some notes from a girl who he obviously WAS IN a relationship with.I am fuming as he blatantly lied to me about being in a relationship with someone and I don't understand why? (I would have been happy for him btw)Am I over-reacting to this or would you feel hurt and betrayed and confused too? He's text me today and I haven't replied-I am not the type of person to ignore someone though, nor am I the type of person who can not say anything to him about it (I will go mad if I try and pretend I don't know!) PLEASE HELP!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your replies- Sorry for the delay in replying! I think I wanted to MAKE him say he doesn't want to keep in contact, (as he is a coward and I had to force the 'what's going on with us' question!) Left to him he would've continued just acting weird, avoiding me and let it fizzle out rather than have the guts to face me.
@Red591, I don't want him back, (I think we shouldn't have gotten into a relationship in the first place, and maybe if we had've just stayed friends, we would still be friends today- he treats his friends well!!!) Thanks
@CaringGuy, your last paragraph says it all! Thanks
@wordlywise, yeah he was probably 'trying' to be polite, but I would have rathered he not said it. Truth hurts, but not as much as lies! Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2011): Why worry, he is after all now in your past, an Ex.
He was probably just being polite - like, sorry its over but if it makes you (and me) feel better or in case I get bored we can be text buddies...
Make yourself too busy to worry about him,delete his number, he really isn't worth it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 September 2011):
My advice is to stop wasting your time on a man who dumped you for no good reason. It's very clear that what he wants is a spare, just in case other things don't work out and you're mad enough to take him back.
I have never kept in contact with an ex. It's far too much trouble, and usually they lie about keeping in contact anyway. I have a friend who not once, but twice fell for the 'let's keep in contact' thing.
Truth is, this man is an ex who dumped you for no good reason and who has lied about keeping in contact. That's all he is. You're worth more than that, so clear him out of your life and move on to someone worth your time.
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reader, Red591  +, writes (17 September 2011):
 he wants to keep you on the shelf in case the other items are defective. How bout you end contact. He had his chance and he blew it. If you want him back then ignore him a little and maybe he will see you won't sit on the shelf. If you don't want him back then what is the point of the contact anyway
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