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writes:I am 28 and my girlfriend is 36 years old and but she is amazingly fit and looking stunning beautiful We are together for the last 2 years. I am not that explicit in expressing my feelings. When she says I love you , I just reciprocate her with Ok . I only love having sex with her and pressing her big tits frequently. She gives me gifts once in a while and don't get anything in return from me except thank you. I see light in her eyes for me 24/7 but she has yet to experience anything like this from my side. After watching movie in theater, she asks me how was the movie , I just reply with cold OK. Today, on breakfast, she was smiling saying that my life has got stuck in OK and I spontaneously kissed her hard on her lips and left for the office without saying anything. Why I am like this? Don’t you people think she deserves something better from my side? Am I harsh with her? Should I say “I love you” to her tonight? Please help me on this! Thanks!
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (23 October 2011):
 A really good question -- you say she's your fiance.Doesn't an expression of love come before a proposal of marriage? What made you propose? Why would it be easier to ask "Will you marry me" and not tell her you love her? Usually a guy tells the girl he loves her in the wording of his proposal. Have you ever told her you love her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2011): I think you need to do some serious growing up. You need to take up some long time on the psychotherapists couch and let your "fiancé" get on with her life . We don't get that long on this earth to wait precious time with waisters!
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reader, blueberrys  +, writes (22 October 2011):
 .you really need to be honest with yourself...do you love her..or are you just playing games i think its a bit cruel the way your treating her...you have to ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life with her...or is it just a sexual thing...goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2011): Hi i have just read your email....and i have to say before you say anything to her...you have to be honest with yourself and ask..."do you love her" or are you just playing games...good luck...
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reader, stressedandtired +, writes (22 October 2011):
 You should definately start giving her the treatment she deserves or you will lose her. She is doing all the giving and you're doing all the taking. Why don't you tell her you love her? Do you know how that makes her feel? She probably feels that you don't love her. She seems like a good woman that another man would love to have so you need to be really careful how you treat her. If you want this relationship to continue, tell her you love her. Surprise her with a gift because actions speak louder than words. Stop being so cold to her before she is gone. And when she is gone, you'll regret the way you treated her and it will be too late.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 October 2011):
Of course she deserves better from you, and you need to show her that. If you don't love her, then you're not good enough for her, simple as that.
The only real question is -- do you actually love her? If you do, then tell her you love her. If you don't, then let her go. Two years is enough time to know. Pressing her "big tits" is going to get really lame for her if she starts feeling like you are only using her for sex.
Have you ever loved a woman enough to have light in your eyes for her? If so, how did you express it? The whole "emotionally distant" thing went out with the neanderthals, yet so many guys think they need to be that way and hold in their emotions.
If you love her, then say you do. If you don't, then let her go and find someone you do so that she can find someone who has no problem loving her body AND soul.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 October 2011):
 That's because you don't love her yet. Maybe you never will. I am surprised this is your fiance and she has yet to hear you say I love you. She is pursuing you but you don't have that magical feeling. It would be unkind to her down the road if you go along the marriage. Don't say I love you if you don't mean it. It's a pity that gifts and kindness can't exchange romantic love.
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