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writes:Is being told your " Mothery " a compliment or a complaint? I was out with my boyfriend last night in his car i was cuddling him and I kissed his head while stroking his hair and he said I was mothery. I wasn't sure how to respond so I just stayed silent till he changed the subject. Is it good being called Mothery? By your Boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 October 2011):
 Depends, does he want to fuck his mommy?
Relationships are complex things and what we want in a partner varies depending on how we feel ourselves.
If you were cuddling as in sexual and he started to think of you as being motherly... then it most likely was not a compliment.
If he was sick and you were comforting him, then it might have been.
Turn it around, how would you feel about him if he was being fatherly? Say, you were walking in a crowded area and he protects you from getting bumped into like a dad sheltering his daughter. Good?
Say you where having sex and you suddenly started thinking of him as dad. Bad?
Same thing.
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reader, champagne69  +, writes (22 October 2011):
I think some males, the egotistical kinds especially, may find mothering as a down fall. But with my boyfriend, when he's sick or upset, he likes me to be mothering, when he doesn't feel 100%, he wants me cuddling him, running my fingers through his hair and kissing him on the head just like you mentioned. It makes him feel better, which I think it is the nuturing motherly traits that we woman possess. I would definitely take it as a compliment, would make him feel good inside, just might not be the sort of thing he would want to go brag to his friends about. But to be kept within a relationship, I think it's a very good to have at times. :)
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (22 October 2011):
 I think when people say you are motherly they mean it as a compliment. People who are motherly make you feel safe, secure and all warm inside.
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