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writes:Hi,So yesterday me and my boyfriend of almost 2 years went out together had a really nice day, even bought me one or two things too which was out of the blue but very very nice and kept telling me he loved me and missed me because we hadn't been able to hang out that week with him working.He gave me some taxi money for my journey home as he didn't want me to get the bus back at night which was really sweet and told me to text him when I got back home, which I did.I kept on getting one worded answers throughout the night and a very long gap in texting at one point too, then just randomly stopped texting all together!I figured he probably just fell asleep as he's been working hard at his new job this week so I went to bed and hoped he'd text back in the morning, woke up and nope nothing! I checked Facebook and saw he'd updated his status twice once last night around 2 hours after he stopped texting me and then about an hour before I text him the next day, so he wasn't asleep last night like I thought he was.It just seems very random that he was really lovely with me yesterday and then last night and today he doesn't seem to want to talk at all.It's not usually like him to do this, usually if he doesn't want to text he'll tell me, and that's fine but this is just really random and strange.We used to text ALL the time before he started his job in the past week but that's changed and now we hardly ever text so I don't think it's because he needs a break from texting either.I haven't sent him another text as I don't want to bug him just in case he DOES just need his own space for a day or two and he's also not working today either unless he got called in at the last minute, but I don't think that's the case.What's the possible reason to why he's acting like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell he text back. Turns out he thinks I'm just using him for his money!
I'm so upset but it's not true at all. I've been with him 2 years and out of the 2 years he's only been working 2 weeks so I'm guessing if I was a gold digger I would've left him long ago. I'm really upset he thinks that about me, I do love him so much and just can't believe he thinks I'm after him for his money.
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reader, mylassie10  +, writes (23 October 2011):
 I agree with worldlywise. I wouldnt panic just yet. I know with myself, I just get sick of texting and Ill just stop and I dont mean anything by it. Just leave him alone and let him come to you and Im sure he will. And you guys should talk more on the phone instead of texting. But texting good morning or goodnight or asking how his day is going at work is fine, but you guys should verbally speak once a day, every day especially if you dont seem him every day..and you can casually bring it up the next time you do talk. Make it into like a little joke or very nonchalant or something so he doesnt sense any anger from you and he'll give you an honest answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2011): Sounds like my bf lol. We spend an awesome night together and then once i leave the next morning he drops off the face of the earth. Occasionally a random text that i reply to and then goes unreplied from him. It drives me insane! I try not to worry about it beause i dont want to seem clingy, but i know how you feel!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2011): Really hard to say.....perhaps there was just nothing more to text so he got side tracked with other people,friends etc.....maybe talking about his new job to them,who knows
Best thing you can do is ask him next time you see him, not by text,face to face. I doubt its anything to worry about after a lovely date with him and 2 years together .
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reader, shameless +, writes (22 October 2011):
 Probably his phone was discharged, and he went to use his facebook a little bit before he went to bed. If I were you, I would talk to him, remember, communication is the key to a good relationship.
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reader, The Girl with the Diver's Hair +, writes (22 October 2011):
Don't worry too much about it. He's probably just resting I guess. My boyfriend tends to be like that alot but in the end it just comes down to the fact he is busy and doesnt have time to text. Of course I know yours is a complete different circumstance but it will probably turn out the same and you'll be fine. Just don't get too paranoid! Good Luck. E x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2011): I experience the same thing with my boyfriend. When he doesn't respond to texts right away I tend to think there's something wrong. Maybe he got my text, read it, and thought to himself, I'll respond later. And then later comes and he might have forgotten or fallen asleep in your case.
It sounds like you had a great time and he cares about you a lot. What matters is what happens when you are together and the little things he does to show you he cares. Maybe he really is just busy or he didn't hear his phone when you sent him a message.
Do you have any reason to think he is up to something? If you have concerns then you need to talk about it with him. Trust needs to go both ways.
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reader, lolak2k +, writes (22 October 2011):
probably busy with someone/something else. My husband would always want to know where I am and to call him when I get there and that would be the last time hed pick up the phone cause he was busy working. When I checked the phone bill he was on the phone with his job every hour. Probably calling to see if i had stopped in or called there.
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reader, frankman +, writes (22 October 2011):
Oh dear! sry to tell you that, but this is definitely bad sign. The least is that he is busy (either having terrible hard time OR with another friend(s)) any way, you should know about it and the easiest way is through his face book. Let a friend of your (girl) to add him to verify if he loves you or not. Of course he shouldn’t know that she is your friend. Best of luck!
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