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writes:i am 13 years old. and i hav been in deep love with a guy i know for 3 years,(call him A) A does know i love him but he doesn't love me back.so i decided though at a very early age that i will wait for him to love me. i think he will eventually though i am not attractive. (maybe someday?).but recently i found another really cute guy (call him B) and i started having these really stupid dreams about him. i just cant take him out of my head. i love A so much that i feel i am cheating on him.I met B just a short while ago. what should i do? i am going crazy!!!!!!!!!help!!!!!!!!1
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reader, stressedandtired  +, writes (22 October 2011):
 You are very young so learn at an early age not to wait for no man. You've stated that "A" knows how you feel and he is not returning these feelings. Now you have feelings for this other guy, does he feel this way also? And no, you should not feel you are cheating on "A" because you are not in a relationsip with him. It's normal for you to start having feelings for guys at this age but be careful not to grow up too soon. Just enjoy being young. One last thing: never say that you are unattractive. You should love yourself no matter what. Men/boys can sense low self-esteem and they will feed on this. Start loving yourself because I'm sure you're a wonderful gir!
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reader, Abella +, writes (22 October 2011):
 what a dear responsible friend you have. He knows you care about him. But he also believes that you are crushing on him, but that also you are too young to have a relationship with him. This makes him an honorable guy. perhaps where you are a little older he may show interest. In the mean time he is being a Good Guy. All Praise to him.
Now you have developed a new crush. This is entirely normal at your age. You may even develop some other crushes on other cute gorgeous guys. because guys start to look better and better as they develop toward maturity around 16 upwards.
You cannot possibly be "cheating" since you are not in a relationship in the true sense. You are crushing.
Perhaps take the time to read more of the answers to teenagers on the dearcupid.org site and you will start to see what is normal and what causes problems in teenage relationships.
And I think you are blessed with lovely guys you are crushing on as they have been respectful and considerate enough not to take advantage of you. That makes them very admirable guys. Just keep friendly with them, talk to them, but remain respectful of their boundaries too.
Your time to flower into a Princess your First crush will notice will happen when the time is right.
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reader, diamond57  +, writes (22 October 2011):
go for B if you want! you're not cheating A , you're not in a relationship, you're allowed to like other guys , maybe this is a sign that you should move on from A ?Good luck , hope this helped xx
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