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*ivejust2bJess
writes:When I first met my fiance (friend at the time), I never thought that I would have fallen for him as hard as I did. One thing about him is that he has a disablity called 'Cerebal Palsy'. He has a mild case of it, but it makes it so he has to wear braces and use canes to walk with everytime he goes out in public and can only stand for no more than an hour. But it just tears my heart out to see how people, especially more of his and my age group (17-20's) look and stare and point fingers and purposly run into him on purpose and act like he doesn't have feelings at all! His best friend and I stand up for him when we see this stuff happening, but we can't be with him all the time. He has always been made fun of since middle school and it kept on from then on. It hurts him so bad that he doesn't even wanna go out or in public unless he really needs to, other than that he sits at home in his room. He really is a sweet, funny, and made of pure gold guy. He doesn't have any speech problems or isn't mentally ill, it's all physical disablities. To me he is a keeper and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but how can I help him realize that the world isn't perfect? How to make him feel better about himself? to actually make him excited to get out and do things to see a whole new world? Please help me boost self esteem and save a life? greatly appreicated!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 October 2011):
 You need to live in a different neighbourhood. Praise him for his good qualities. You should refrain from acting like a therapist because it shows that you are in a higher position and luckier than him. The more you do that the more he is going to think you deserve someone better. Don't be obvious the whole discrimination thing bothering you because he would be stressed out that your life would be affected as well. Treat him as an equal. Support him in his career, his ambitions just like he's any other man. Be sensitive that he can't take any criticisms. There will be times you aren't happy with him, no relationships can escape that but be careful when you had to argue with him one day. You can look for quiet places to go to. It depends on what his interests are. Some people are just indoor people.
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