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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Hi,Walls up?Means:He's protecting himself. Maybe, something happened to him in the past to make him feel this way?He's probably not sure about the relationship? Did you give him any reason to not trust you?Insecurity / lack of trust / not completely opening up to you / protecting himself / have reservations / concern / doubts / afraid to share feelings / It must be a reason why he said that to you? Whatever it was, if you truly care about him, why don't you have a talk with him? It's better to talk, know why he feels this way, and try to solve what's bothering him. If you are in a relationship, you need to trust, and communicate with each other. If you don't communicate, you guys will never be happy. It's not going to be a healthy relationship. The whole point of dating someone is to get to know each other, and have a good time. Otherwise it's just sad, stressful, and exhausting. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): it's an excuse/reason for not getting closer to you than you want.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 He is protecting himself. He puts a barrier up. He may be on a rebound, may have been hurt before. Therefore, he guards himself from future hurt.
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reader, cecilia003 +, writes (20 November 2011):
i think he may thinks u two are too close, and he doesn't want to be with you. sorry, i may be too straightforward. but last time there's a guy said these stuff to me and said he wants to be neutral, he said he's not ready to for serious relationships, but it turn out to be his excuse
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 The meaning is obvious. He's keeping you at a safe distance to protect himself from future pain.
A wall or fortress keeps out danger and protects those inside.
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reader, Abella +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Hi Alexia
It is hard to tell. You have not provided much information. Just:
"What does it mean when a guy says he has his walls up?"
Though I am going to assume you are referring to his emotional state?
Not that he is a builder currently building a proper
What a guy means, usually, with a remark like that, is that in order to protect himself emotionally he has decided not to reveal as much about himself as he would normaly do as he is worried about being emotionally hurt.
It is for his own emotional protection. He may have been hurt emotionally before , and he fears the same outcome, as previously it hurt him so much.
What do you think made him feel vulnerable like that?
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