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*nowCave
writes:My girlfriend went to a nightclub for a girls' night out last night, came back at 4am and spent the first hour of today throwing up. How worried should I be?The poster for the event she went to depicts a young lady sitting down in a chair, with her panties around her ankles.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 November 2011):
 sounds like she went out with the girls drank too much and got hung over.
your follow up says that you don't trust her and why (and it's a good reason)... so now you have to decide if you want to try to trust her and put the bad feelings out of your head and give her more chances..
I tried to do it with my husband.. and he was doing well till he lied to me again about others online... etc.
if she's not doing anything since she said she would not then i'm betting that all she did was have a girls night out....
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Not worried at all.. it's the modern form of entertainment for some women right now. Only worry if she demands to do this every single week.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Based on this alone I don't think there is anything to worry about, but I do think this sort of thing is rather low brow. It used to be something teenagers did. I guess nowadays it takes some much longer to grow up.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (21 November 2011):
 The poster doesn't mean anything. Just ignore it, you're reading into it too much.
Watch her closely, make sure she doesn't seem too sick. If she does seem REALLY sick, take her to the hospital.
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reader, SnowCave +, writes (21 November 2011):
SnowCave is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI suppose the thing is that I do have a few reasons not to trust her at this point. About a year ago I found out that she had been chatting continuously with her ex-boyfriend behind my back (actually chatting simultaneously with him and me on IM about twice a week), and he came to visit her for a few days staying in a hotel near her apartment. We're past that now but the sense of trust never quite got restored. She likes the attention and has a hard time saying no.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Does she have a curfew?
I'm confused by the third sentence. Was she so drunk that her panties came off?
Do you trust your girlfriend? Then there's nothing to be worried about. Sounds like she had too much fun with the girls and is paying for it the next day.
Don't go inquiring about her night while she's emptying her stomach contents in the toilet..just let her be hung over and ask her how her night went the next day.
Unless you don't trust your girlfriend and she has girl's nights Fri-Sun then you have NOTHING to be worried about.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 It was just a bunch of girls having fun and drank way to much. Why do you feel like you need to be concerned. Everybody deserves a night out now and again to destress. Why not organise a man's night out so that you can equally go out and enjoy yourself. If you start on her you are only going to come across as needy and clingy if you trust her well then allow her to go and enjoy herself with her friends.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (20 November 2011):
 On the surface, I wouldn't be too concerned about this. It sounds like she tied one on. So long as she didn't cross any lines by flirting or coming on to other guys, I think you could chalk this one up as an adult lady trying to rekindle her early 20's lifestyle and not realizing that's a thing in the past.
If this is something that is occurring more frequently, it is a sign that there is something wrong. It certainly isn't a sign that she is mature or a "keeper" for that matter.
Talk to her and ask her how her night was, nurse her through the hangover and hopefully she'll realize you aren't the jealous type and this will be a very rare occurrence.
Good luck.
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