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writes:l am 24 years old and two months pregnant. problem is l sometimes hate my boyfriend for no apparent reason, l will ask him not to contact me or come and see me but ofcourse he does not listen, he will come and see me or call me. l then tend to insult him or say things uncalled for and it hurts me because l really donot like what im doing. at times l love him like im going crazy, l really donot know what to do because l think l am gradually pushing him away, he does not know about the pregnancy. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 It is cruel to play with someone'e emotions like that. Very hurtful. It's obvious you do not love him when you are trying to hurt him like this. If that's the way you feel then you should let him go for his own sake. But do not use the child as a weapon to hurt him if you are not together, it sounds like he would make a great dad so make sure he is involved with the child.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 you had a miscarriage 3 months ago and are now 2 months pregnant?
is birth control not an option for you?
personally I think you would be better off letting this man go... clearly you don't love him or respect him enough to build a life and have a child with him... you were like this before you were pregnant... (you said this in your update)
the only drama is the stuff you are creating... "maybe I should leave him?"
no maybes about it... you don't want to be with him... leave him.
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reader, supermum  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 I had symptathy for you until you posted this last update. What a horrible thing to say! You are right, maybe you should save him the aggravation of being with such a mean person!
What you have been through is awful, and I am really sorry for that, but I miscarried before and I have never used that tragedy as an excuse for bad behaviour.
Sort yourself out. And don't come running to us for sympathy when you go and say things like that! How awful.
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reader, kign25 +, writes (21 November 2011):
kign25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx and l have called and told him im expecting, he was over the moon... he is 37yrs old and pretty much wants a baby... but now l just feel like sending him a message to tell him it was all a joke, l hate myself for this but its like l enjoy seeing him hurt. this started way before the pregnany and l just want it to end. l had a miscarriage three months ago because l was in a terrible car accident and he was so crushed but very supportive, maybe l shud just leave him coz the drama l cause is too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): I'm thinking it could be the hormones talking. I know during premenstrual times I can feel like I dont want anything around me, including my partner who is always just an awesome person.
You cant help hormones or how you feel, but you can be mindful of things. If your boyfriend wants to see you and youre not up for it, compromise and say you are busy at the time but he can come by the next day. If he does turn up anyway, just be mindful of what you say around him. Stick a movie on or hang out without it being about talking or whatever causes you to pick at him. If you are honest with him, he will try and understand. Also I need to ask whether you are happy being pregnant or whether it was unplanned and you are stressed by this? SOmetimes stress can make us more irritable also. SO hormones + stress = irritable pregnant lady! All the best.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (21 November 2011):
My guess is that because you are hiding the fact you are pregnant it is putting pressure on you and you are taking it out on him. Do you want to have the baby, if not then maybe you are blaming him for this. Also your hormones will be running high as well, he is the father of the baby and he deserves to know the truth however hard it is to tell him. So sit him down and tell him that you are pregnant, he helped to create the life in your belly so he also has the right to know about it. Once everything is out in the open and the stress of keeping it a secret is out then am sure your behaviour will start to improve. Good luck.
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reader, supermum +, writes (20 November 2011):
Hmmm. How long has this been going on? If it is since you got pregnant, then it is definately all the new hormones taking you over. It is very common. If it started before the pregnancy, then you can't use it as an excuse lol.
However, you are not far off a quarter of a way through your pregnancy, and he really does need to know. You do not want him running away at a time like this, and the less time he has to come round to the idea, the more likely he is to panic. It is a huge thing, and he really does have the right to know.
He seems very supportive, if he is not listening to your tantrums, so I cannot urge you to tell him, and soon, enough.
Good luck, and, of course, congratulations!!!!!
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