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*ock chic
writes:Hi. I have separated from my bf of four years, the father of our child. He has a drinking problem, and he has lied to me so much since we been together. He also was sacked from his job last week.He was getting help, but gave up twice coz he thought he could do it by himself, he didn't feel he was getting anything from the group.I don't no if he been drinking behind my back, or just had relapses which I have caught! I love him, I have tried my best to support him, but has done nothing!Last thursday, normal day he went town to pay tax, 3 hours later no sign of him, tried calling txting countless times but nothing! I was sick with worry, 10 hours later the door bell goes, the police have bought him home drunk!I was fuming, but relieved he wasn't dead or something! I have given him chance after chance. I can't trust him, he won't talk to me about his problems, how are we spose to Work?Am I right leaving? Do I stand by him?
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reader, pieldeangel  +, writes (20 November 2011):
There are many types of people but if there's one thing we all share is that if we ourselves dnt want to change nobody else can make us change. Hope this helped
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reader, Rock chic +, writes (20 November 2011):
Rock chic is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for the advice!
He is very messed up, im just fed up with him letting me down
It's going to be hard as im so used to brushing it all aside
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 November 2011):
Leave. You can't allow this man to be around your child as he is a drunk, and you can't allow him to take control of your life. You need to leave for your sake and your child's sake, otherwise this will have terrible effects on you both.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (20 November 2011):
In my opinion, it would be futile to stand by a man who wnt better himself. He has issues obviiusly tht he needs to address and his problems are affecting u and possibly ur child. Make sure tht u can live with this decision tho. I think u r right to leave and hopefully losing u, the one person who stands by him through his crap, will motivate this man to better himself. I respect u for ur attempt to help him but its time for him to want to be helped first. Good luck
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