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writes:Hi there...so... i broke up with my bf 6 months ago. we were together for 5 years and i know i did the right thing, 'cause he didn't treat me well...the thing is, i've been having a rough time forgetting him...he was my first bf and i know i did everything to make it work, especially because i thought he was the one, my true love...i was completely mistaken... he doesn't care about how i feel...anyway, how long does it take to forget? i know there isn't a rule or anything, but out of your personal experience, wasn't 6 months enough to let go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): heck no it could take years
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): I feel that the healing time for a breakup is between 1 to 4 years. The longer the relationship the longer the grief. 6 months for five years is too short. Especially if he was treating you badly.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 November 2011):
 Unfortunately there is no expiration date on a broken heart.
But the more you wallow in your sorrow and pain, the longer it will take. To be honest, it took me almost 2 years to truly get over my first love. Since we moved in the same circles he was hard to avoid therefore harder to get over.
You need to forgive yourself as well. Im sure you felt it was partly your fault he didn't treat you right, you need to let that go.
Then get back on the horse! Go forth and kiss some frogs!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): 6 months is not a long time. You will heal in time. Just be sure you are getting out and enjoying life. Baby steps.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 It can take someone a month and someone else a month. Really there is no set time to heal. You just need to try and move on as best you can. You know he is not for you which is a good start and I bet if you look back to 6 months ago you will see that you have moved on a lot since then. Just keep yourself busy and occupied. Avoid all contact with him. Off course it is normal to think about him, but when you find yourself doing it well then distract yourself. Go out and date and enjoy your life.
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