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anonymous
writes:My bf basically cheated on me emotionally (just not physically) with his ex about a year into our relationship. We had a massive argument about it all and he suggested he would drop all contact with her to make things work with us. He did this and has done it now for 2 years. However, I am not over it. I forgave him, but I cannot forget. I look at her Facebook a lot and I don't even know why. She's BEAUTIFUL and I cannot help but compare myself to her, kinda wondering what she had that I did not for him to go back to her. I worry every time he goes back to him home county in case he runs into her randomly. I would certainly date her over me, she could be a model. How do I get myself over her?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 November 2011):
 You have NOT forgiven...to forgive means to move on and remember so that if they do it again then you can say... second time... fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me...
do you really think that beauty which is surface only is what your man wants that's not really fair to HIM is it?
1. block her facebook.. she's not your friend why do you even look at her stuff.. she's PAST... do you want to be punished for things you did BEFORE him? WHY?
He cheated.
he told you
he complied with your wishes to end contact
it was TWO years ago.... why do you keep punishing him?
because you are punishing HIM... your feelings color your behaviors and that impacts negatively on HIM...
she's his EX for a reason and you are with him...what THREE years now?.... so ummm after 3 years would it help if he wanted to marry you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): He sounds like he made a mistake and regretted it. He has chosen to be with you and has been for a few years, not days.Perhap if you stopped looking at her profile photos...unless you have met her in real life you don't actually know what she's like.. she may have bad breath,smelly feet, be high maintenance, lazy, a cheat, a b^^^h...you don't know The fact he cheated with her 2 years ago is the problem, you have chosen to stay with him but are still full of doubt.The trust is gone. Will you ever forgive him totally and let it go? Or is his cheating too much to let this relationship continue?.
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reader, Cultuz  +, writes (20 November 2011):
Well I've had many problems much like yours... Something I really wanted to get over but couldn't... I never got over them and I hear that it's not easy to get over..Ever..If possible at all for some people (I know it's not for me).
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