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writes:ok well I am 18 and I am having trouble dating I am bi and there are no girls or guys looking at me to date is there something wrong with me. I am a little over weight and covered in freckles but no one seems to like me
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reader, mutherh +, writes (1 November 2009):
Sorry you're having trouble dating.
Looks aren't everything, but I know that weight issues can sap confidence. Looking after yourself by eating wisely and taking exercise should trim any excess weight - and will boost your self-esteem. I can't give any advice on the freckles, but if someone likes you then I'm sure these are not a problem.
People liking you comes from you liking other people. If you are truly interested in other people as individuals, then someone will show interest.
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reader, Blackbird86  +, writes (1 November 2009):
Don't worry, I am sure it is not you. I know how you feel, I am 24 and I haven't ever had a steady boyfriend. I ask a lot of the same questions that you do, "why doesn't anyone want to commit to me?", "why are the guys I like interested in me?" I really don't think that it has anything to do with me personally and likewise, I don't think it has anything to do with you. It just isn't the right time.
Some people just have to wait a little longer to get lucky (figuratively :-) ) You haven't met the right girl or guy yet but when you do, things will seem to fall into place...trust me! It can be lonely at times I know, just being on your own, but one thing that is worse than being lonely when your single is being lonely when your in a relationship. So don't rush into the wrong relationship, wait for the right relationship to find you.
Also, everybody has insecurities about their body. Don't live up to anyone else's standards. If you would like to get into better shape then start exercising daily and eating better. If you would like to be more knowledge, starting picking up books on the subjects you are interested. Live up to your own ideal and in a little time, someone is bound to come by and really appreciate you for exactly who you truly are.
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