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writes:I really need some advice please someone!I caught my husband texting an old flame a couple of weeks ago and questioned him about it a couple of days ago he said he was really sorry, usual stuff but I feel so betrayed and worthless to him now, there are so many emotions going through my head. I am so upset because he also text someone else 4 yrs ago and we went through the same thing and its taken me a while to trust him again but now I feel like shit that he has done it again. We have been married for 10 years and our marriage was wonderful before I found out. I asked him for some space a few days ago but today tried to meet up with him to try and talk through it first of all we were going to meet tonight for a drink but them he changed his mind as he was having dinner at his brothers. I feel that now I hate him even more as I have done nothing wrong and I feel he should be doing all the chasing to try and resolve this matter not me. I spoke to his sister in law last night about it add she seemed really sympathetic but he was round there house tonight and I feel she should have made an effort in getting him to meet up with me so I am really pissed off with her.Now I dont want to meet him I feel if he really loved me he would have done anything to try and see me but he hasn't. I have a 14 year old son who isn't the best behaved child and we have had a few problems with him but what family is perfect? He text me tonight saying I need to clear my head what I want to do all this with Matthew (my son) has really got to me I know that its not what you want to hear just being honest. I feel now he is trying to turn this mess with him texting another woman into now problems with my son!! Please can someone tell me what I should do? I feel if he really loved me he would have done anything to have tried to sort out this mess now I feel like he doesnt love me and using my son as an excuse, please can someone give me there veiws as now I am thinking I dont want to try and sort this mess out and get him packing......
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): I have only been married one year but I feel like I know your situation. My husband has secretly talked to his ex before and didn't tell me til days later. More than once. How do you know this is the only time he has talked to her during your relationship? People don't normally just talk to old flames out of no where for no reason. As far as men go, they will do anything to take the heat off of themselves. Your son had nothing to do with this. So there should be no reason to bring him up. It sounds like he is either looking for a reason to get out of the relationship by being an asshole. That way if you are the one to end it, you look like the bad person. The fact is, if he is not going to put effort into the relationship, then he isn't worth being in a relationship with. I know it's hard to end something that has gone on for so long but if he doesn't want to try to fix things then there is no reason for you stick around. Also you shouldn't be mad at his sister, she may lend a sympathetic ear but the fact is she is his family and will always side with him. Your family would do the same. He may have even told her that he wants out and feels he has done nothing wrong or turned the story around to make himself not look bad. Hope this helps.
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