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writes:Is sex before marriage ok? I mean what happens if it's going to be a while before you find the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): yed ther4e is nothing wrong with sex before marraige. face it being with one person all your life sexually cant be that good. but then again it may be. no sex before marraige is in plain english religious rubbish. like q1605 said would you get a car before you have a license? take care.
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (1 November 2009):
 Just ask yourself how you feel about your future husband having sex with other women while he's waiting to find you.
That should answer your question.
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (1 November 2009):
That is a personal question that everyone has to answer for themselves. No one can give you a right or wrong answer. Though if you are asking it in general way to gauge opinions, I personally don't believe there's anything wrong with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): Oh wow, is that ever an "it depends" question!
Part of the answer depends upon your upbringing -- your religion and the values you've absorbed from your parents. For lots of societies, sex before marriage is a complete non-starter. If your family and community think that way, and if you're having thoughts about behaving differently, you've got some serious thinking to do.
Personally I think that the proscription about non-virgin marriage dates to a time when people married very young as a matter of course. It's not that way now. People hit puberty around age 12 or 13, and it's hardly uncommon to wait until your late 20s or early 30s to marry.
For what it's worth, my take is that in a committed relationship where you're old enough and mature enough to deal with the consequences, sex before marriage can be perfectly appropriate. Sex without love, affection and commitment is generally a bad idea -- it's unsatisfying, it's unfullfilling, and seldom better than masturbation. If you care deeply for the person, have got to know and respect them, and you both feel it's the right thing to do, then fine. It can be a wonderful experience. And, as Q suggested, you don't really want to make a lifetime commitment to someone who is wholly incompatable sexually, because sex is a vital part of a successful marriage.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): It's up to the individual. If you have religious beliefs that are important to you then you might make the decision to wait, and that's fine. But if you do wait then masturbation is necessary because I believe it can be extrememly unhealthy to go for a long period of time without ejaculating. I mean physically unhealthy.
You also shouldn't do it if you don't feel it's right or if you're not ready. I personally feel that if two people love each other then there's nothing at all wrong with it. But you're still young. Why are you talking about marriage? If you're feeling pressured to do anything it's not at all weird or strange not to be having sex at your age. Don't rush into anything. You've got plenty of time. And make sure you know about safer sex and act responsibly.
But yes I believe sex before marriage is ok.
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reader, ant katya  +, writes (1 November 2009):
sex before marriage is fine these no need to worry about, if you find that specail someone and if he loves you he will respect your ideas and wait untill you both are married, if that specail someone can not wiat until marrage and you want to wait then you have to make that dessiction for weather you want to be with him.
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reader, DLover  +, writes (1 November 2009):
Yes, it is perfectly natural to have sex before mariage !
Even if you think it's the right person, you will want to make sure that the sexual part of the relationship answers your needs before commiting to this one person for the rest of your life.
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