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writes:I am 23 and just found out last week I am pregnant with my boyfriends baby. He is 20 and his father is a pastor. We were very devastated that we were pregnant and I told my sister, he told his brother and wife. The people we have told are very supportive of us keeping the baby. It doesn't matter to my boyfriend though was very depressed and upset. I was trying to figure out a way to make him ok with everything. I told him when I was going to go to the doctor that I would ask about other options. He asked what I meant and I told him I was thinking about the abortion pill... His face lit up. He said we should do it and now he never wants to talk about my pregnancy. I went to his dad's church and felt a peace about keeping this child... when I told him I wanted to keep the baby.. He was furious.. He wouldn't even consider it. I feel like the only reason he doesn't want to keep this baby is because he is afraid to tell his parents. How can I convince him that keeping the baby is the best thing to do. I am sorry but I will not have this baby, if he is not supporting me. I regret telling him about the pill but that's in the past, just like the mistake we made.
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reader, PixiePie  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 honey honey honey!! i understand your pain and confusion, but you have to do whats best for you, not him. it is your body and while it is inside you, its your baby, at least until he is willing to see it as his.right now you will not realise it but the emotional turmoil of going through an abortion and losing a baby, especially when it was not your decision, will last for years.just because he is afraid of telling his parents does not give him the right to tell you to abort, it just gives him the label of coward. if he truly loved you he should stick by you. you say you have support of others, lean on the support, get them to help you out.and at least wait til emotions have calmed down. this is not something you want to be rash about. after all it is a life that you have both created through love and commitment.lastly his father may not be happy about it. but once he sees his granchild you'd be suprised how different he'll feel, especially if you let him know you found peace with it in his church.i urge you to take your own line with this, afterall it is you who will have to live with the physical, emotional and mental consequences of it.
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