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writes:i met a girl and asked her out but she is insisting on what i saw in her and why i asked her out. I told her because she is beautiful but she won't accept Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): I dated a guy once that was very intelligent. In the beginning I was never jealous or insecure of his intellect but as time went on he would always tell me how beautiful and gorgeous I was. It turned out that was the only compliment he would ever give me, or at least all compliments were related to my looks. And thus it became a problem because I felt marginalized to the point I felt like I was just a thing to him and not a person. I wanted him to see me as intelligent too and to take me seriously but instead I was just "beautiful".I don't know what insecurity your friend has but maybe she is curious to determine why you really want to be with her. I think it is strange that she has a problem with your compliments this early on, but let her know that she has other qualities that you really find attractive. Maybe that will ease the tension.
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