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writes:Hi,I'm in need of some help,I have been with my boyfriend for the last 3 years, and i now feel like i'm stuck because if I leave him he has no one else. this is because he changed universitys (to the one im at)and has made no other friends. However i know that i don't love him how i used to anymore the reason for this being he can be very aggressive towards me, doesn't let me do anything else without making me feel bad,and he calls me names all the time, dont get me wrong there is times when he can be the most wonderful person in the world but these times are getting rarer now. i'm so confused as to what to do because i forgive very easily and i will feel sorry for him if he has no one.please help! i have no idea what i should do next :S thank you x
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 It doesn't sound like you want him to change, you just want him gone and I can't blame you. It's not your responsibility to keep him company and the fact that he has no one is his problem. He calls you names, is aggressive and makes you feel bad ; I gotta agree with q1605 that the guys is a douche. Perhaps he has no friends because he is a douche? Whatever the reason, it's not your problem. You are too young and have too much life ahead of you; don't get into the habit of accepting mistreatment and bad behavior because you feel sorry for someone. If you do, you'll spend the rest of your life surrounded by douches.
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reader, Trans Am Man +, writes (31 October 2009):
 just simply tell him that if he doesn't change then it's over. If he loves you at all he'll change his ways.
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reader, wiccanrain +, writes (31 October 2009):
 that was his choice to change universities. you can't blame yourself for your feelings changing. it's not fair to either of you to stay together if you don't have feelings for him. nore is the fact that he doesn't know anyone. he just has to introduce himself. about the name calling, that's not ok. even if all the other times he's a saint, it's those bad times that shows what a person really is...so my advice, end it and if you can stay friends then try if not well then both of you have learned something for next time
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reader, mohammad  +, writes (31 October 2009):
you can try to make him doing better and never hide anything can make u feel , believe in force inside u and u can change him and the men can change only by love and dont give up easy he loves u but he affraid to take his feelings out so learn him to take it out
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reader, tux +, writes (31 October 2009):
 If you don't love him, then leave. Why should you care that he has noone else? He may have noone else because you are there for him.. Once you are gone, he can make his own choice to whether he wants to find someone else or live in loneliness.
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