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anonymous
writes:There is this guy I have had a crush on for two semesters now, he is really outgoing, he knows a lot of women and flirts a lot too. I can not even got back into the Art Building without him "flirting" with me. So I was walking on the opposite side of him in this long hallway in our building and there were about ten other women looking at him, and he had the audacity to make eye contact with me...for a while. I only glanced and looked away because he is so d*mned confusing.I know everyone wants women in college, to wait in line for them like they are at some d*mned concession stand but I am not like that. I want someone who is going to put me first. Whenever I email him on facebook he ignores me, but when I see him in the Art building he flirts with me and bothers me continuous, not in a sexual way though, more playfu. Its to the point where I might snitch on him for sexual harassment...I know its mean, but mixed signals are worse(sorry guys :-)So does he like me or not? I wish he'd just ignore me like I am doing him if he doesnt.. He is always poking me on facebook and I dont know how because I took him my friendslist.
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reader, MinnieM  +, writes (31 October 2009):
Please please don't snitch on him when it's not true, it's not only mean it completely undermines girls who are REALLY being harassed. I would just ignore him completely & when he starts bothering you tell him if he want's a conversation he can reach you by e-mail or to just go away and leave you alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): I think it is safe to say that he is playing mind games with you. He may or may not be aware of it, but that is besides the point. Your interaction with him is more disagreeable than desirable. It is briefly pleasurable when he shows you attention but agony to contemplate what his intentions may be.
I am sure you are wonderful, its not you, its him. Guys especially love to flirt with women to reinforce their ego. (Not all guys, but many). When a guy flirts with a girl and he gets a response from her, it tells him, "see I could have her if I wanted to."
Because you said he flirts with many women I will assume that he has no intention to be loyal or monogamous with anyone. He ignores you and puts you in a state of anxiety and then he shows you some slight attention and suddenly his asshole behavior is erased from your memory. (Been there :-) )
You are too important to let such a man have his way with you. Don't ask him out, it will only further lend to his ego. Tell yourself you deserve someone is actually capable of an adult relationship (he is not).
My advice: Distance yourself from him. Show him that you are not subject to his game like other girls. If he has good intentions he will try to win you over but if not he will simply spend more time with the girls that show him what he wants to see.
Good luck.
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