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writes:Hey everyone. So I have been devasted and lost for the past week and a bit because my boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me. It was a shock and I haven't been able to function properly all week. His is reasons for breaking up with me were the following: he felt that 1 on 1 time was the best, we got along so well and had fun, but when hanging out with his friends he felt differently.... he said that he felt awkward when it was him, his friends and me. Which doesn't make sense because I am not high maintanance or clingy or whatever! And his friends all like me a lot. When we said good bye we both cried and didnt want to leave each other.....So a week later I am hanging out with friends and he texts me. We had a normal little conversation over texting. He was drunk at a Halloween party and just telling me what he has been up to. I was tired and I said good night... I woke up this morning and I got a text from 3am of him saying "i kind of miss you". I don't know what to say or what this means! I want to say "I feel like Im dying without you!!!!!" but obviously that won't go over well. The thing about him is that the truth comes out when he is drunk! So guys please help me here! I know this is a stupid question but I'm holding on to this every word! I truly think we can make it work and be together. I just want to be with him!Please tell me what to say back?
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (31 October 2009):
Three people tell you to not reply and you do the opposite. He's going to walk all over you if you're always at his beck and call, be careful.
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reader, Nora_Bird +, writes (31 October 2009):
Nora_Bird is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well we've been so close for such a long time and i know him very well. I KNOW that with him, the truth comes out when he's drunk. I would be skeptical if i didnt know this about him. I ended up saying "do you actually miss me or were you just drunk?" and he said he misses talking to me all the time. We've been having a casual conversation all day. So we'll see what happens
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (31 October 2009):
Sorry but no, the truth doesn't necessarily come out when you're drunk. I've drunk texted plenty of people and what I said at the time, I meant it at that time, but in the morning I was like, "Damn! Why did I do that?!" We get lonely and emotional when we're drunk, but I don't think you should feed on his every word, especially when he's texting you drunk in the middle of the night! Don't say anything back. Really think about this, he broke up with you for a silly reason. He needs to suffer a little bit, so don't reply to his stupid texts he sends in the middle of the night. Maybe here and there you can. But you already talked to him earlier that night, you don't need to respond to that other text. He'll text you again for sure.
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reader, lola29  +, writes (31 October 2009):
he regrets it, but that is the silliest reason ive heard so far, for a breakup. I also think his friends advised him to do it. Because if they were okay with you, they wouldnt have let this happen. Ofcourse it gets kinda awkward, not everyone can get along so fast. but really, i think he wanted to be single for awhile and deep down he misses u, but since this was him drunk i really think you shouldnt reply or anything, the more he sees ur just not into him anymore, the more hes going to want you to reply back. So what-- if you know he's telling the truth coz he's drunk, he needs to be sober and normal if he really wants to say how he feels. whether this is harsh or not, i really think you need to rethink what you are about to do. from my experience, my bf is not friends with most of mine and vice versa, i do act all quiet round hsi friends coz i dont see them constantly or talk to them. its okay if his friends are notclose to you, If you are confident and act like a proper person around them, they'd like you. and ur ex needs to knwo that thats not a reason to ruin a good relationship since you guys have been together for half a year. Dont think u are the reason for it to end. He has some issues about himself and just pins it on to u . goodluck and hope u think about it all. and if you guys do get back together, which i expect i guess, then make sure ur together for the RIGHT reasons, and he doesnt use you .
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reader, AskLadyJuJu +, writes (31 October 2009):
 so he said i KINDA miss you .. and u say NOTHING.. give him space let him realize what he has lost and he might come back to you but if he does u need to set rules and figure out what was the reason for him breaking up with you because if its not a good enough reason then it wont satisfy you and you will be conscious about him breaking up with you again for no reason..seems to me like hes been looking forward to holloween.. for now dont talk to him give him space hes the one who broke it off its his mistake..if he comes around dont take him back so quick becuz then u will seem like u cant live without him i mean u say u cant but u dont wanna show him that =] lol in the meantime have a lil fun.. goodluck!
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