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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Should I tell my Mom I lost my virginity?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 6110 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently had sex for the first time but i dont know if i should tell my mum or not, i dont want her hatin me for it, what could i do?... (32 words)

Should I tell him or forget about it and can I confide in my best friend??

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I've got a problem. I'm in love with a very good friend of mine. I hang out a lot with 3 friends of mine but I'm only going to mention 2 of them: Vicky and Colin The more time I spend with them, well Colin, the deeper I fall in love with him. He makes me smile every time I see ... (277 words)

It feels like shes moving far away just to get away from me.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - hi, I'm in 6th form atm and me and my gf have been going out for 9 months now, we go to the same 6thform and id say were pretty serious if not very serious. My problem is that after 6thform my girlfriend wants to move to a different country to go to uni?!?! or at least some whe... (232 words)

Should I try to find out what his feelings are to me OR should I just leave him alone??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Ehhhh... I'm COMPLETLY stuck!!! I'm in love with my best friend!!! I don't know if he loves me back but either way I don't know if it would work. His mom hates ne and doesn't want me to hang out with me because she thinks I"m the reason he's sad when I'm the one that would a... (99 words)

What do I mean to this man? Am I just a friend he has over for sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age - Hi I met a guy a while ago and we got on really well. We met a few times then he went on business for two weeks during which time we texted and e-mailed and it got more and more erotic. When we met again it was weird, it went really flat. We parted by mutual consent. ... (211 words)

Sex was painful with my partner, has anyone got any ideas on how to make it less so?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I made love with my boyfriend for the first time last night. I have been with him for 8 months and I have been on the Pill for 3 of those months. It is the first time I have ever made love with the partner not wearing a condom and would like some advice. Firstly, his p... (445 words)

My bf is sweet when we are alone but makes nasty comments when his friends are near. I find it very hurtful. What to do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6086 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - my boyfriend acts different around his friends. like he'll be really sweet around me, and say all the right things, and then when he's with his friends he'll be a total retarded jerk. But i dont say anything because i try to understand him, that he has to be a guy and stuff. ... (112 words)

14 and worried my vagina is too tight to have sex...

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 6087 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - im worried my vagina is to tight to have sex, im only 14 but boys tell me its tight, it takes me so long to masterbate, even if i feel in the mood, is anything wrong with me?... (38 words)

Ready for sex all the time but the wife is tired or feels undisposed most of the time, and is unwilling to reveal herself.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age - Ready for sex all the time but the wife is tired or feels bad or something most of the time. I want to do sexual things all the time. She thinks her weight is a problem which is minor really. It happens to the best of us. I love her boobs but she won't hardly let them out to ... (69 words)

My girlfriend broke up with me to be with somebody else and did not accept my suggestion to remain friends, I do not understand what went wrong.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5955 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - First off i just wanna say thank you for all the help, i'm in an awkward situation, so any advice is greatly appreciated. Situation: About 4 weeks ago, my girlfriend of just under 3 years broke up with me. We had been dating for roughly 2 and a half years with no problems... (406 words)

Planning to give him some space/time to cool off, but I don't want him to break up with me. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 51-59 - My bf and i have been together for 1 year now. we had many fights before (mostly because of his problems and i forgave him). Recently we had a big fight and both got very emotional at that time. He and I both admitted that we both were at fault. He said "we both need to ... (152 words)

My ex is pregnant with my child but denies me the paternity in favour of her ex before me, do I have any rights?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6118 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 51-59 - my girlfriend is 5 months pregnant with my child her ex husband has had a vasectomy they have recently got back together and live 60 miles away and are now saying the baby has nothing to do with me and if i contact them again they will in there words get me done for harrasment ... (81 words)

If it's impossible to get my hair straight, is there any "scene" hairstyles for curly hair?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6038 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, I have thick, wavy/curly hair (like a sheep) but I want my hair to be like a "scene" kid, but I don't think it's possible. :( I know people say to use flat irons to straighten curly hair, but I'm looking for a way to get my hair REALLY straight. I dont know if it's possibl... (78 words)

My partners (since my ex) are all boring in bed, will I ever discover good sex again? What's wrong with me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - With my ex, I had incredible mind-blowing sex. It was really amazing. I never had sex like that before her and never again since. However, the rest of the relationship was terrible and we ended up breaking up. The trouble is that I've been with a few girls since then, and ... (83 words)

Summer vacation in safety - New York City or Los Angeles? Please help me decide.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 51-59 - Ok, this is not a relationship problem. I want to take my daughter on a vacation this summer and I have two choices. Either Los Angelos where we will have to rent a car but we can go to the beaches and also go shopping on rodeo drive (mind you we won't be buying anything!!) ... (145 words)

His cheating was not... cheating, as we had decided we didn't have an exclusive relation. After I found out I went angry, will he contact me again?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age - I recently found out the man I've been sleeping with for 3 yrs was sleeping with another women. We weren't BR/GF we were FWB. Needless to say when I found out I blew upa nd said very hateful things to him. I apologised afterwards and have left several messages for him to call ... (104 words)

My friends say my bf is frigid because he never kisses/hugs me. How can I help him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4014 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been going out with my boyfriend for quite a long time. But I've got a problem... My friends describe him as 'frigid' because he doesn't even hug me, I have to go over to him and hug him first. My friends say I should kiss him, or dump him because he doesn't 'really' like ... (90 words)

My bf won't kiss me despite of my hints, I'm afraid he doesn't want to...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - hi, im 11 and i know that sounds a bit young but i realy love this lad i've been going out with him for a bit now about 1 mouth but he says hes not the shy type but i have to go first for a hug and i want to kiss him but he wont make the first move and im giving all the right ... (80 words)

My bf always criticises my female friends' physical (or other personal) details, after a reunion. Why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, Every time I have taken my long term boyfriend to a wedding/christening/function that I've been invited to, he makes some sort of rude comment to me afterwards about one of my friends. It is always females that he comments about and it's usually something person... (132 words)

How likely is it that I might be pregnant? I know the pill is not foolproof, so I am very worried.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6098 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm 19 and a university student. I have had problems with acne for a while and I am on the contraceptive pill Dianette to help with the acne. Because I have it for acne my doctor never explained the contraceptive side of the pill. So how easy is it for me to get pregna... (206 words)

Any position except for missionary is painful for me. Any physical defects on my side? How can we amend this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm having a problem with sex. No matter how hard we try, my boyfriend and I can't do any position other than missionary. It's painful for me to do anything else, it always feels like he hits a certain spot and it's the most painful thing ever. My question is, what are we doing ... (75 words)

Should I call this woman that has been intimate with my bf and whose presence I see as a "dare" or would this be overboard?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - My BF and I have been together for about 4 years. We have been living together for 2 years. Before we moved in together, we were long distance for about 7 months. We had the understanding that we could sleep with other people, but once we settled in those poeple would not be ... (434 words)

Inevitably in between waxes the aspect is not totally shaven, and my bf cannot stand hair! Is he in minority? What do guys usually prefer?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 51-59 - My boyfriend likes all pubic hair completely shaved/waxed and he can't stand even a tiny of bit of facial hair. I do wax but obviously in between waxes some hairs do grow back (I'm talking about my face here). Is this the norm or is he in the minority? Regarding pubic hair, ... (119 words)

It's been a month since we've been going out, do you think it's a problem we have not kissed yet?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - Well how should I start... I first met this girl my junior year of high school (last year) through a friend, but I was having other problems dealing with someone I fell for but she rejected me badly and moved to Florida. We didn't know each other's names but she always called ... (1142 words)

Is sex wrong at young age?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 6031 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - is sex a wrong thing at young age i need help because a girl wants to do it with me but i don't know help me please!!!!!... (27 words)

After my depression, my libido has decreased. I want to enjoy sex again.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F) age 36-40 - My sex drive has gone to zero...! I no longer get aroused. I used to be very sexual, only a kiss got me going. But last year I got depressed, I was depressed for like 2 months, and my sex drive was obviously nonexistant. Then I got better and it started getting better, ... (314 words)

My ex says she wants to be affectionate, then says she wants to move on. I'm confused! How to win her back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - Just recently split up with my girlfriend of over a year, well split up bout 4 weeks ago.but i can't stop thinking about her and i just wanna be with her because i love her so much and she says that she misses me and all she wants to do is love me and kiss me and hug me but ... (102 words)

Is his watching horror films just a "bloke thing" or should I be a bit worried about my husband's state of mind?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 6120 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age - Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, I have a question about horror films. My husband loves to watch them, including some pretty gory, ultra violent ones. I don't like them but I will watch them sometimes although I don't like the really bad ones. Most of my female friends s... (222 words)

I didn't ejaculate through manual stimulation with my first gf. Any method to facilitate this? Is anterior masturbation to blame?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - Hey Im a 26 year old male virgin, and only got my 1st girl friend a month ago.. My girl has tried giving me a handjob 4 times now, each time with her tryin until her arms go numb (30 mins to an hour), and i just don't cum I dont know if its me at fault here, or the ch... (110 words)

A husband who loves his wife doesn't say things like that to her right...?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5665 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and I got into an arguement last evening. He was having a beer during dinner and kept on commenting how good the beer tastes throughout dinner and after dinner. While then, I said to him that flowers are nice to give, especially if one didn't get anything on ... (231 words)

I just don't understand why my ex didn't treat me properly...?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Well to start off I was in a 3 year relationship with my ex and basically I just need to let it all out. I'm the person who posted about the low heartbeat. My baby was fine at 6 weeks, good heartbeat and looked healthy but then on the Friday I went back and it's heartrate w... (1045 words)

We both love each other just. I need to know what is up with this girl... any women got any similar situations, or could translate this strange language of women I don't get?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 30-35 - Sorry if this question is long but you kinda need to know the story. I met this girl in September. We started dating on December 1st and broke up recently cause she said she was to busy to see me also she said she can't forget her first love naturally no one can and I don't ... (305 words)

My husband doesn't want sex.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5542 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband is no longer interested in having sex... I am 27 years of age, he is 33. We are both (physically) in fantastic athletic shape and have no kids. We have been married for almost 6 years now, and we are both working in the same industry (computer engineering) living an ... (198 words)

I thought he was slowly coming back to me but then in the space of a day he's gone all funny.. still says he wants me in his life etc

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend broke up with me at just before new year saying he wanted to be by himself. He stayed away for a few days then arrived back into my house, hugging me and kissing me etc etc... He seemed to grip me hard when he hugged me as if not to let go. He stays when I'm on ... (216 words)

Semen volume enhancers?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5999 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 51-59 - Has anyone here tried Semenax? Did you feel any difference in volume? If yes, how long it took you to notice the difference and what is the percentage? Thanks in advance,... (34 words)

Who are Leo's most compatible with?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 26-29 - What are Leo's more compatible with? I mean like I am a leo star sign and I do not know which star sign I am more compatible with?... (28 words)

My partner is depressed and I don't know how to behave in order to pick him up...

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 6107 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

- My partner is very depressed because (I think) he has been through a big mid life crisis and although he has been seperated for over two years his divorce has only just gone through. I don't know how to behave. I have just had some therapy myself because I am not very ... (206 words)

I've never been pregnant before, is this possibly pregnancy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6120 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I had sex the day after my period ended, took Plan B. 1wk later; lower abdom. cramps, brwn dischrg; pink spotting, NO appetite,emotional,couldn't sleep. preg test-Neg. Wk2 cramps, no appetite nausea after eating, slept more, fatigue. 2 Preg test-Neg. Now wk3; dischrg but Im 5 ... (86 words)

Met a new guy but I can't stop thinking of my ex...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - I've met this new guy and I do like him a lot and he really really likes me, we are taking it slow to get used to each other first, but the only problem is I can't get over my ex, even though it only lasted a few weeks. My ex was a bit better looking then this one I'm seeing ... (131 words)

Long distance relationship with a catholic girlfriend.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6099 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi! I have this great girlfriend that I have met during study in Italy. After a while we started having a great relationship knowing it was gonna be hard because she lives in Mexico and I in Europe. On the other hand it is totally worth it because we are great together! ... (300 words)

My ex owes me thousands, I'm taking him to small claims, but how easy is it to get a charging order on his house?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 51-59 - I lent my ex when I was with him, nearly 5 grand to finish a refurb on his house so he could sell it. It was suppose to be for 2 weeks till a remortgage he applied for came through, anyway long story short, he didn't get the remortgage and we split a month ago. He can't pay me ... (146 words)

How can I help him overcome the guilt of hurting me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - My partner has told me he's recently been attracted to someone else - nothing happened and has backed off on the friendship. He says he is very happy with me, we’re still in love and happy together. We did split up 18 months ago when he left me for someone else. We worked ... (344 words)

I don't know how to "get" a girl!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6120 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 26-29 - I need help to get a girl between the age of 11 to 12 but I don't know how to get one, can you please help me?... (27 words)

I think my friend likes me as more than I friend but I'm not attracted to him in that way.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - My friend that I have known ever since high school has a crush on this guy that he knows, the problem is I feel like he's flirtng with me when we hang out and it seems like he's trying to act like my boyfriend. He's always timimg me, has a fit if I'm not on aim, basically wants ... (204 words)

Any advice on how to cope when the 'honeymoon phase' ends??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

- Ok so my question is about the topic of 'the honeymoon phase'. You know how when your in a relationship and at first you cant get enough of each other? You're so happy, you're all over each other and cant wait to see the other person and talk to them everyday? Then suddenly for ... (268 words)

I finally feel prepared for sex but how to communicate this to him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - I've just got my first ever guy,and i've not mentioned i'm a virgin and i don't think i'm ever going to,anyway he said he would wait until i was happy to do it. well i'm ready now, but don't know where to start or what to do i know this sounds really stupid, please any advice... (56 words)

Seeking revenge over my boyfriend's cheating. What should I do?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5573 days ago

17 February 2008 (F) age 41-50 - my bf cheated on me and now i wanna show him...i've revenge like feelings for him...i just wanna show him that he is the one who has lost something by cheating on me....otherwise it's goin to ruin my self esteem...we are in touch on day to day basis....pls help... (49 words)

Small lumps on my vagina, that are itchy. What could this be?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6116 days ago

17 February 2008 (?) age 30-35 - I have a few very small lumps just to the left of my hole (sex hole.. lol) and they get itchy, mainly on a morning. It's not really bad itching, but enough to not be able to ignore it. What could this be? I really dont wanna have to go see a doctor or my mother..... (56 words)

I never surrendered to the persistencies of this married man, but it's very hard to resist the urge. Ways to make this easier?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F) age 41-50 - i did make a mistake when i fell for this married guy who's in my office and senior to me...but the best part is this i never allowed him to touch me and i simply refused to get physical with him....now i've stopped talking to him...even he didn't make any effort to get me ... (110 words)

My bf is somewhat ugly and I'm not sure I fancy him. What to do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age - hello i am having a boyfriend problem.see i like him but hes a bit ugly i don't want to hurt his feelings but i don't think i fancy him ?? what shall i do?? ... (45 words)

Should I pursue a career that is best for the future or stay with the woman I love in a job I hate?...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been with my fiance for more than four years and was due to be married next year. I have been searching for a new career and decided I want to join the army. She will end the relationship if I join because she doesnt want to be on her own for long and wont move away from ... (84 words)

How do I tell my bf I want a baby at 13?

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 5972 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Ohkay.I am 13 years old.I have done everything with a guy.The first time though I didn't use protection hoping I would get pregnant.But I am dating this guy right and I really love him.I want to have a baby with him but how do I tell him?I am young too young for a baby I ... (92 words)

How to know whether a guy loves you when he does not express his feelings or feels shy?...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 6120 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - how to know whether a guy loves you when he does not express or feels shy? what are the signs to know about it?... (25 words)

Does he love me or does he love me as a friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age - Valentine's Day was the worse. A long story but basically my boyfriend and I had a communiction problem with having our gifts brought out by personel or we would give them to eachother ourselves. I thought since we both work in the same department we could do it ourselves but I ... (122 words)

What should I do? My husband never offers me oral.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, my husband and i have been together for 2 years. I give him oral sex every night sometimes even twice a night. He never gives me oral. He will tell me that he will do it one night and then finds an exscuse like i'm to tired, or he tried and i didn't wake up from my sleep. ... (74 words)

Husband doesn't want me to go to church.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age - My husband doesnt want me to go to church, i want to so bad to fellowship, music and to just enjoy the presents of the Lord, i do free enjoy the presents of the Lord home. Why ? he says that they want to know where he is and that they will start praying for him, he doesnt want ... (115 words)

He won't let go of the other girl and he won't let me go either. What does this say about this man?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - I was with this guy for 4 years. He always been nice to me during our relationship, but I caught him cheating on me. Instead of begging me for forgiveness he dump me right there and walk away with the other girl. I was devasted and I started to blame myself because he made me ... (278 words)

I became good friends with my ex's best friend and now he claims to have fallen in love with me! I don't want to hurt him, what to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello. I have a real problem here (again, lol) I just started talking to this 14 year old about a week ago. We became really good friends and I think he is overall and awesome person. But now he claims to have fallen in love with me...IN A WEEK!!! And i have no clue what to do. ... (112 words)

My ex and I love eachother

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - I am still in love with my exboyfriend, and he is still in love with me. He has told me he is and I have told him that I am. But he is presently with someone else though. We live awhile away from eachother so it was amazing how our love helped us keep a relationship of 7 months ... (262 words)

The most embarrasing that can happen with sex.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 6113 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend has been asking me for anal sex but I am scared to try it out, not because of the pain, but because of the potential embarrassment involved. I read on here that anal sex can get quite "messy", what exactly is the mess about? I want to know the most embarrassing ... (65 words)

How to feel truly happy again with or without a relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6121 days ago

17 February 2008 (M)

age 36-40 - I want to improve my life! Life is by no means bad. I'm in college on an excellent course which is going very well. I've applied to universities and plan to go there later in the year. I have established a group of friends to hang around with when I have nothing else to ... (391 words)

Choice between abortion or keeping it

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 6118 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - If anyone here has ever had the choice to make between keeping a baby, making a person you love very much happy or aborting a baby and having a future, please help me! I'm 17 and a college student. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 10 months when i found out i was ... (278 words)

Why don't some guys express how they feel to a woman sometimes?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 6122 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 41-50 - Why don't some guys express how they feel to a woman sometimes?... (12 words)

My best friend has changed since we got back together.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6122 days ago

17 February 2008 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my best friend fell out after people made up lies about what she apparently said about me. We didn't talk for about 4 months and now we are back to normal - almost. Things aren't the same she is only 15 but goes clubbing which she never used to do and the other week ... (164 words)