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writes:I've been going out with my boyfriend for quite a long time. But I've got a problem... My friends describe him as 'frigid' because he doesn't even hug me, I have to go over to him and hug him first. My friends say I should kiss him, or dump him because he doesn't 'really' like me... I don't want to dump him. But I think he would be scared and back away if I tried to kiss him. How can I help him to realise he can hug me/kiss me?
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reader, Luckycharm792  +, writes (25 November 2013):
Heyy, I'm in the same boat as you it realy sucks I need to somehow break that frigid ness :(
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reader, Vry Confuzzled +, writes (12 November 2009):
Omg i have tha same problem but only my boyfriend will get up and move to a different spot if i go to sit nxt to him!! and its really annoying!! And as much as i try to do things with him he wont even kiss me back.... You should ask him why he wont kiss you or hug you.. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Yh i hate it when that happens,but to be honest if they text you or sweet talk you on msn, then its fine. I have a boyfriend like that but he is sooo sweet on msn, and his texts are lovely. I came close to dumping him soo many times, and in the end I didn't because it's whats on the inside that counts, my friends also think I'm too good for him because he won't kiss me, but what they don't know is that at the end of the youth club that we met at we kiss so ha to them. Don't get your friends to say anything ask him why he won't kiss you yourself or email, text or IM him. Good luck! Xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): This isnt teen angst. I am a 37 year old female and have started dating a 35 YEAR OLD guy that exhibits the same behaviour. Its scary! I have kids so does he. His ex cheated on him (27 times - she kept a list). I love him, I do. Very generous and funny... just doesnt kiss me or hug me. His mother (adopted) is gorgeous and loving. My friends say I should run away....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): you should go to him and ask him y he hasn't hugged u i have been through this before he's scared just hug him first and he'll think that u think its o.k but let him be ready for the moment once i had a bf and he was scared but then he got use to it and kept doing it so he wouldn't always suprise me it isn't a big deal
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reader, lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions +, writes (18 February 2008):
 im having a few peoblems with my boyfriend and the kiss part but the hug ...if you dont want to then ask your friends are willing to help or your boyfriends mates them get them to have a chat with your bf and make sure he knows that he can come up and hug you when ever he likes and you dont mind one little bit same with kissing if you think that help...hope my answer helps for you and good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): Boys and girls are rather different at your age. Boys are sometimes still the in the "Girls...yuk!" stage! Don't let your friends influence you too much - he may just be a bit shy about kissing you in public. Some people don't like it. If you want to kiss him, go somewhere where you can be alone and see what happens.
As Vickidude says, don't let it go any further than that.
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reader, wazwazy +, writes (17 February 2008):
 im the same age as u and i no what guys are like cause i am1 so heres what u do you ask him out and he should try the famous yawn move which all guys no so wen he does that u no hes ready or u can ask him is he ready for kissin because trust me he doesnt kiss u cause he likes u boys get nervese wen a girl trys to kiss him
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reader, kellyO +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Hi,
I can see your friends being mentioned alot in your post. It shouldnt be about what they want you know, but more about you.
My advise is that you should try to avoid telling them stuff about your personal life or boyfriend.This is the learning stage for you now. Dont let friends pressure or dictate to you how your relationship should be like.
You and your boyfriend are still young. Try get involved in other cool stuff like watching a movie or going to the park...Enjoy his company and make him relax and the hugs will come. But please try not to get carried away! There is plenty of time later in life for all that.
Lots of hugs..Kelly.
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