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writes:Sorry if this question is long but you kinda need to know the story. I met this girl in September. We started dating on December 1st and broke up recently cause she said she was to busy to see me also she said she can't forget her first love naturally no one can and I don't worry he does not like her ONE BIT and I know it, he treats her like shit and does not talk to her. Recently we got more into the topic well here's what she said"I hate who I am and when you say I'm pretty or something I don't believe it, I can't believe it so I just can't be with anyone cuz I'm retarded.. ""All I can say is I can't let someone love me when I dont love myself"Stuff like that so I know it's not really the first love problem it's something more deepWe both love each other just. I need to know what is up with this girl... any women got any similar situations, or could translate this strange language of women I don't get. I don't care that she broke up with me it's cause she did it for all the wrong reasonsIs there anything I can do to show her how pretty she is if she doesn't want to believe me I'll show her we are both virgins too so none of that.I think personally it's cuase she does not want to get hurt again by someone she let into her heart, but that's what I think I need answers and thanks for your input SORRY FOR THE LONG READ
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 It is very hard on self esteem to get dumped. Sometimes a person just can't get past it. If her ex is still treating her poorly, this is contributing to her self esteem issues. Is there a way you (or her friends) can get her away from this man?
She is right that she can not accept the love of another until she can love herself. I would suggest that you try to be her friend and show her the good things about herself. Get her out and about enjoying things and eventually she will come out of it.
And, yes, she is afraid that someone will hurt her again. We all are. The difference is someone with a healthy self-esteem will take the chance but someone who is fragile will not. She really has to get past her fragile state and a good friend could help her do this. You sound like you really care about her, give it a try.
Good luck and thank you for taking the time to care about someone.
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reader, lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 well what can i say it sounds a lot like she dosent find her self pritty one little bit and you are proberly right she dosent want to get hurt i mean what girl does try winning her back by beng friendly to her be a real friend and let her pour her heart out to you but dont take advatage help her over her problems so she is more confident and make sure she can trust you if she is having a hard time then maybe she just dosent want to be with anyone at the moment so the best piece of advice to give is just be a real friend to her
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reader, lil miss blond3 her answerin ur questions +, writes (17 February 2008):
well what can i say it sounds a lot like she dosent find her self pretty one little bit and you are proberly right she dosent want to get hurt i mean what girl does try winning her back by beng friendly to her be a real friend and let her pour her heart out to you but dont take advatage help her over her problems so she is more confident and make sure she can trust you if she is having a hard time then maybe she just dosent want to be with anyone at the moment so the best piece of advice to give is just be a real friend to her
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