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My bf always criticises my female friends' physical (or other personal) details, after a reunion. Why?

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Question - (17 February 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 17 February 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Hi,

Every time I have taken my long term boyfriend to a wedding/christening/function that I've been invited to, he makes some sort of rude comment to me afterwards about one of my friends. It is always females that he comments about and it's usually something personal, like 'she didn't have very nice teeth' or 'her skin was a bit dodgy' etc etc. I find this inappropriate especially as he is 51 yrs old and is quite average looking himself. It really annoys me and I usually don't say much in response although I want to get annoyed but don't want to cause an argument after an event/day out. Why would he have these attitudes towards women?

Thanks

xx

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A female reader, hello1 United Kingdom +, writes (17 February 2008):

hello1 agony auntI hate people like that! If I was you I would have snapped back ages ago, next time just say you're no old painting yourself. Or just say it makes you feel uncomfortable when he puts people down like that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008):

You are annoyed because you find it disrespectful. You obviously don't want to cause an argument, but it shouldn't degenerate into one if you proceed with diplomacy. However, at his 51 his beliefs and opinions are probably well rooted and it may be be hard to convince him the comment is more than general and unintentional! He might as well feel offended in his turn you are "only now" discussing a habit of his that has been disturbing you for long and in some cases an untactful approach will lead to the complete opposite, although rarely, the person becoming very aware of his words as if someone would be still-hunting for potential future mistakes. Carefully approached, the best. You do sound peaceful a person. You can also go about this by continuing his ideas and pointing out the qualities of the respective women - even (preferably discreetly) ridiculising his inopportune ideas to the point he is discouraged to make such comments - a method which is often applied but I wouldn't recommend since it's not based on openness. Remember that we are all critics (firstly of ourselves, generally) and some persons are more severe critics than others, not necessarily out of ill-will.

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